The direction of ones life can turn on an event such as the one you had. Those who have their spiritual radar out, like you do, are more open to the constant unfolding of Path, to the synchronicity of all things. You tell us who you are through the music chosen, the art, the poem (a favorite) the peasants horse story, the Buddhist teaching. One such as you will experience events as signs, markers, illuminations. Blessings on your path.
You are indeed on the path to heal. Continue talking, feeling, letting the experience work its way through. Very wise and well spoken. Blessings and healing to you both.
Even though it is everything else but easy, "letting go" is key, because if not it will eat up on us and eventually it becomes so deeply buried within ourselves that we might even forget where certain patterns and feelings stem from. Acceptance is so important to go further without letting the past pain having a say in our present moment of limitless possibilities, because when we apply the unconscious principal "Time heals all wounds" we tend to suppress feelings. Mental Silence has been the most powerful healing tool, but it requires the willingness to deal with it instead of forgetting it.
because when we apply the unconscious principal "Time heals all wounds" we tend to suppress feelings.
i'm glad you highlighted this. i agree... and mental silence yes, we must face, accept, and be present with it!! thanks for stopping by and leaving this awesome comment <3
Glad you're processing in a positive way. Trauma can really eat at you if it's not dealt with. I hadn't heard that story you included at the end. That's a story. Who knows if it's good or bad though. :D
thanks @twinslandflames <3 one of my fav poems... a perfect one for spring. I'm feeling like this in general, too, though it's magnified by the series of events.
Buddha said clinging to the aggregates is the cause of suffering not life itself...huge argument in Buddhist circles so I can understand the confusion...It's those damn clingy aggregates fault...I do vipassana meditation through SN Goenka's method and there is a lot of trauma stored in the body. The body and mind are all intwined like a knot from what I've seen in meditation. When a calm, cool mind touches the body all those knots disappear like water hitting a hot pan! Poof, ouch, that hurts, sit still and just watch...soon no more steam and the mind is untangled, free to fly. But then I still have to get up and do the damn dishes....hahaha
I need to read what happened in your accident...nothing like experiencing extreme events to make one ponder life in general. Nice to meet you @mountainjewel.
I totally agree, I hope it was clear in the post that indeed our attachments and bonds is the cause of our suffering. We both have also practiced Vipassana, and I can relate. Of course, likewise an unsettled mind can create even more tension and stress in the body. This is why i love breathing so much, it is such a powerful tool for balancing and calming.
ahah, I can picture myself when you're talking about the hot pan experience. human minds are just so funny.... patience should be taught more in schools.
If you haven't already seen, check our post out from Saturday for the story.
nice to meet you @reddust, thanks for stopping by.
I left a message about my own experience on your article about the accident...our gratitude is still present after surviving the almost tragic accident. I figured you knew life isn't suffering but how we react to life, our body is what causes suffering. I am so happy to meet you, we are wayfarers together <3
yes indeed! and i read your note about your close call at the grand canyon. glad you're okay and that gratitude swept the trauma away <3 helps us realize how precious and precarious life is... to treasure our moments. happy to meet you too!
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Thanks for sharing this insight and experience. I'm glad you are okay from the accident, both physically and emotionally.
It's true, some people have one traumatic experience in life after another to the point that they start expecting it. So they miss even the good times that could be there, because they are guarded against the good and accepting of the bad. Over time they either become depressed (turning against themselves) or hostile (turning against the world).
It takes a lot of wisdom, courage, and loving support to be able to react in the way you describe. It helps us all each time someone models doing that.
You’re so true when you say we need good models. In fact, much inspiration from my own choices during healing from this accident came from a person I admire a lot who modeled a good reaction to a car accident. Her family was in one and she, a reiki practitioner, spent time especially with her step son to make sure he didn’t carry any of it in his body or have any remnential trauma afterward.
We could all use such healing care after our traumas. I also like how you framed it as depressed - inward and hostile -outward turning trauma. That is so true and what I have witnessed as well. Pain is such a common denominator in the human, I hope we can talk about it more often and air it out so we can all feel freer to choose healing paths. <3
I just heard 'The Guest House' at a Yoga Nidra lesson last week. We also discussed where trauma sits in the body. Interestingly, as a young child, despair manifested itself as a feeling of emptiness in the pit of my stomach. This continued until I was 25 and in the midst of a takeover robbery, was grabbed by the back of the neck . Ever since then, when I get tense, my shoulders go up and the tension sits in my neck. I feel like I've accepted the situation for it's benefits, it led me to leave banking and go to teaching music, but I obviously still have healing to do.
Oh I’m so sorry to hear of that traumatic episode in your life (tho it seems to have also had beneficial effects!)... it is natural for us to hold tension and keep it there. So so natural. I learned that when I practiced massage as literally everyone carries tension, even the therapists!
It’s such an interesting ? -To ask where trauma sits in the body. As I become body and self aware I have realized and continue to realize I have a habit of holding my breath. It’s a consciousness pratice to breathe deeply into my belly and to release that tension. Being aware of it is half the trick <3 best to you as you heal that held trauma in your own timing <3
Beautiful blog. I really enjoyed your article. Our life is yin and yang. We need healing and we have to find a solution for our society instead of pointing or finding mistakes. We all suffered a lot. I believe that our future is bright! And future is now! Thank you for sharing this blog!
I was thinking of the farmer story as I read the beginning of the post. So glad you included that. It's such an incredibly helpful perspective. I think the original intention of the metaphysical message was terribly misconstrued by a whole bunch of people just trying to make a buck. I think we are always experiencing what we put out. It's not like we had a bad thought, so a bad thing happened. It's more like this is where our energy is, so how could our experience possibly be otherwise. Like Ini said, he had the instinct to stay the night or to pull of the road. It's an opportunity to learn to listen to the voice, and when we know we aren't listening to it, there's usually a little fear there. We have had some experiences just in the last year that I am certain are a result of me not listening to the quiet whisper to change. First it's the stubbornness. Then behind that there is a fear because I know I'm being stubborn. And then the manifestations come. And like you said, there's no good or bad. No need ever for guilt. When something horrible happened to my daughter, my son felt so incredibly guilty, and it took a lot for me to convince him that there is no reason for, or help from, guilt. Of course I felt it too because I knew I wasn't listening to the whisper to change.
I think money is such an easy one to look at. People who easily manifest money do so because they believe 100% they easily can do so. Contrary to what our society says, it says absolutely nothing about their inherent goodness or even their willingness to work hard. Totally and completely unrelated. My challenges in the past of manifesting money are directly a result of my belief I couldn't do so because I wasn't willing to throw my kids to the wolves and work for some company doing something boring. Now I know that isn't how it works. I don't have to sacrifice my kids or myself. I just have to change my beliefs. In any case, that has been the thinking I have evolved to over the years. I know the contrast is also always an opportunity for us to further delineate what we do and don't want. And everything brings a gift. I know for sure that being sexually abused helped me understand that I would never tolerate abuse of power and that I would always fight for the marginalized. Not glad it happened. Had to do a lot of therapy to get through it, but there was a gift.
'In new age circles there is this dangerous belief that if bad things happen to you, you’re out of alignment or not living your highest truth.'
Oh, I could write a whole book on how much that way of thinking frustrates me. You're right, though, it's pervasive and so damaging. It's also the main reason I've never dove head first into the "new age" culture, for lack of a better term. It's thoughts such as those which ring as irrational and unfair in my mind that I can't reconcile. But, I do still draw wisdom from many places. That is one big viewpoint which I do disagree with, though.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.
Now that, I do agree with. Wholeheartedly. It took me a while to get there in life, but now, I definitely do. It's changed everything about how I experience things since I started seeing things that way too.
It's quite literally, all perspective. We can't help the things that happen to us, but we can help how we choose to handle them. I love that song, btw. And this whole post. I'm not aware of the details of your accident, but I do wish you the best after that event. In healing, or whatever it's left for you to sort through or cope with.
The direction of ones life can turn on an event such as the one you had. Those who have their spiritual radar out, like you do, are more open to the constant unfolding of Path, to the synchronicity of all things. You tell us who you are through the music chosen, the art, the poem (a favorite) the peasants horse story, the Buddhist teaching. One such as you will experience events as signs, markers, illuminations. Blessings on your path.
thank you very much @mistermercury.
Did a tarot reading this morning and got even more signs that this is an initiatory time. Much love to you.
You are indeed on the path to heal. Continue talking, feeling, letting the experience work its way through. Very wise and well spoken. Blessings and healing to you both.
thank you for this affirmation and alllll of your support <3 much love
Even though it is everything else but easy, "letting go" is key, because if not it will eat up on us and eventually it becomes so deeply buried within ourselves that we might even forget where certain patterns and feelings stem from. Acceptance is so important to go further without letting the past pain having a say in our present moment of limitless possibilities, because when we apply the unconscious principal "Time heals all wounds" we tend to suppress feelings. Mental Silence has been the most powerful healing tool, but it requires the willingness to deal with it instead of forgetting it.
Thumbs up! :)
i'm glad you highlighted this. i agree... and mental silence yes, we must face, accept, and be present with it!! thanks for stopping by and leaving this awesome comment <3
Glad you're processing in a positive way. Trauma can really eat at you if it's not dealt with. I hadn't heard that story you included at the end. That's a story. Who knows if it's good or bad though. :D
thanks <3 agreed. haha we will wait to see if this is good or bad and how it unfolds. thanks for stopping by you epic commenter!
i missed your original post somehow - so glad to hear y'all were able to walk away from it. what a harrowing experience!
The Guest House is getting to me, so heavily, right now! i did feel as though everything was being swept out, and now the new delights are entering.
be patient and strong (as you always are)
<3
thanks @twinslandflames <3 one of my fav poems... a perfect one for spring. I'm feeling like this in general, too, though it's magnified by the series of events.
(((thank you))) <3
Buddha said clinging to the aggregates is the cause of suffering not life itself...huge argument in Buddhist circles so I can understand the confusion...It's those damn clingy aggregates fault...I do vipassana meditation through SN Goenka's method and there is a lot of trauma stored in the body. The body and mind are all intwined like a knot from what I've seen in meditation. When a calm, cool mind touches the body all those knots disappear like water hitting a hot pan! Poof, ouch, that hurts, sit still and just watch...soon no more steam and the mind is untangled, free to fly. But then I still have to get up and do the damn dishes....hahaha
I need to read what happened in your accident...nothing like experiencing extreme events to make one ponder life in general. Nice to meet you @mountainjewel.
I totally agree, I hope it was clear in the post that indeed our attachments and bonds is the cause of our suffering. We both have also practiced Vipassana, and I can relate. Of course, likewise an unsettled mind can create even more tension and stress in the body. This is why i love breathing so much, it is such a powerful tool for balancing and calming.
ahah, I can picture myself when you're talking about the hot pan experience. human minds are just so funny.... patience should be taught more in schools.
If you haven't already seen, check our post out from Saturday for the story.
nice to meet you @reddust, thanks for stopping by.
I left a message about my own experience on your article about the accident...our gratitude is still present after surviving the almost tragic accident. I figured you knew life isn't suffering but how we react to life, our body is what causes suffering. I am so happy to meet you, we are wayfarers together <3
yes indeed! and i read your note about your close call at the grand canyon. glad you're okay and that gratitude swept the trauma away <3 helps us realize how precious and precarious life is... to treasure our moments. happy to meet you too!
great and inspiring
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Thanks for sharing this insight and experience. I'm glad you are okay from the accident, both physically and emotionally.
It's true, some people have one traumatic experience in life after another to the point that they start expecting it. So they miss even the good times that could be there, because they are guarded against the good and accepting of the bad. Over time they either become depressed (turning against themselves) or hostile (turning against the world).
It takes a lot of wisdom, courage, and loving support to be able to react in the way you describe. It helps us all each time someone models doing that.
Thank you.
You’re so true when you say we need good models. In fact, much inspiration from my own choices during healing from this accident came from a person I admire a lot who modeled a good reaction to a car accident. Her family was in one and she, a reiki practitioner, spent time especially with her step son to make sure he didn’t carry any of it in his body or have any remnential trauma afterward.
We could all use such healing care after our traumas. I also like how you framed it as depressed - inward and hostile -outward turning trauma. That is so true and what I have witnessed as well. Pain is such a common denominator in the human, I hope we can talk about it more often and air it out so we can all feel freer to choose healing paths. <3
I just heard 'The Guest House' at a Yoga Nidra lesson last week. We also discussed where trauma sits in the body. Interestingly, as a young child, despair manifested itself as a feeling of emptiness in the pit of my stomach. This continued until I was 25 and in the midst of a takeover robbery, was grabbed by the back of the neck . Ever since then, when I get tense, my shoulders go up and the tension sits in my neck. I feel like I've accepted the situation for it's benefits, it led me to leave banking and go to teaching music, but I obviously still have healing to do.
Oh I’m so sorry to hear of that traumatic episode in your life (tho it seems to have also had beneficial effects!)... it is natural for us to hold tension and keep it there. So so natural. I learned that when I practiced massage as literally everyone carries tension, even the therapists!
It’s such an interesting ? -To ask where trauma sits in the body. As I become body and self aware I have realized and continue to realize I have a habit of holding my breath. It’s a consciousness pratice to breathe deeply into my belly and to release that tension. Being aware of it is half the trick <3 best to you as you heal that held trauma in your own timing <3
Beautiful blog. I really enjoyed your article. Our life is yin and yang. We need healing and we have to find a solution for our society instead of pointing or finding mistakes. We all suffered a lot. I believe that our future is bright! And future is now! Thank you for sharing this blog!
Thank you! So true - we are yin and yang and I love that you say our bright future is now! couldn't agree more! much love to you~~ :)
I was thinking of the farmer story as I read the beginning of the post. So glad you included that. It's such an incredibly helpful perspective. I think the original intention of the metaphysical message was terribly misconstrued by a whole bunch of people just trying to make a buck. I think we are always experiencing what we put out. It's not like we had a bad thought, so a bad thing happened. It's more like this is where our energy is, so how could our experience possibly be otherwise. Like Ini said, he had the instinct to stay the night or to pull of the road. It's an opportunity to learn to listen to the voice, and when we know we aren't listening to it, there's usually a little fear there. We have had some experiences just in the last year that I am certain are a result of me not listening to the quiet whisper to change. First it's the stubbornness. Then behind that there is a fear because I know I'm being stubborn. And then the manifestations come. And like you said, there's no good or bad. No need ever for guilt. When something horrible happened to my daughter, my son felt so incredibly guilty, and it took a lot for me to convince him that there is no reason for, or help from, guilt. Of course I felt it too because I knew I wasn't listening to the whisper to change.
I think money is such an easy one to look at. People who easily manifest money do so because they believe 100% they easily can do so. Contrary to what our society says, it says absolutely nothing about their inherent goodness or even their willingness to work hard. Totally and completely unrelated. My challenges in the past of manifesting money are directly a result of my belief I couldn't do so because I wasn't willing to throw my kids to the wolves and work for some company doing something boring. Now I know that isn't how it works. I don't have to sacrifice my kids or myself. I just have to change my beliefs. In any case, that has been the thinking I have evolved to over the years. I know the contrast is also always an opportunity for us to further delineate what we do and don't want. And everything brings a gift. I know for sure that being sexually abused helped me understand that I would never tolerate abuse of power and that I would always fight for the marginalized. Not glad it happened. Had to do a lot of therapy to get through it, but there was a gift.
'In new age circles there is this dangerous belief that if bad things happen to you, you’re out of alignment or not living your highest truth.'
Oh, I could write a whole book on how much that way of thinking frustrates me. You're right, though, it's pervasive and so damaging. It's also the main reason I've never dove head first into the "new age" culture, for lack of a better term. It's thoughts such as those which ring as irrational and unfair in my mind that I can't reconcile. But, I do still draw wisdom from many places. That is one big viewpoint which I do disagree with, though.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.
Now that, I do agree with. Wholeheartedly. It took me a while to get there in life, but now, I definitely do. It's changed everything about how I experience things since I started seeing things that way too.
It's quite literally, all perspective. We can't help the things that happen to us, but we can help how we choose to handle them. I love that song, btw. And this whole post. I'm not aware of the details of your accident, but I do wish you the best after that event. In healing, or whatever it's left for you to sort through or cope with.