For a while now I have been pretty curious about different variables and how they affect the chances of people finding love and one of the variables I have been curious about is how a career could affect our chances of finding love.
I had a conversation with my brother about this topic and for him, he doesn’t feel like a career could make a difference but I feel like certain careers have perks that make it easier to meet people and to find companionship.
Moving forward, I will be breaking this down into two parts on how I feel certain careers might be an advantage or disadvantage.
FIRST PART: THE APPEAL FACTOR
The appeal factor speaks about how certain careers are appealing and could give an edge to certain individuals, mind you that the appeal factor could be different for each gender.
For me, especially in the country I was raised, I feel like certain professions are looked down on or idolized and this might be a determining factor in the search for love, for example, most ladies I know would rather date a doctor or a businessman than date a policeman because well, police in my country aren’t exactly appreciated.
Another thing that comes to play in the appeal factor is the amount of money each career makes because most people if given the choice will go for someone with the one that pays more.
Not forgetting the place of women in the appeal factor, most men might prefer career roles that aren’t tasking on their women because it is believed that a woman is a caregiver in the home so she should have enough time to balance these roles.
SECOND PART: THE ACCESSIBILITY FACTOR
The accessibility factor speaks about how certain people have more access to meeting others because of their career while others might be at a disadvantage, for example, a waitress or flight attendance might meet more people compared to a freelance writer who is always at home and due to this factor, one has the opportunity to have options while the other might not.
Now I am not saying that because you are a freelance writer you wouldn’t find love but if you do not purposely put energy into your social life, you might find it difficult to meet people.
IS MY CAREER STOPPING ME FROM FINDING LOVE AND WHAT CAN BE DONE?
Well, it is very possible that due to your career you aren't meeting people hence it might be a bit difficult to find love but still, in the end, there is no manual in life and what might prevent one from finding love might not prevent another but if you truly feel like your career is stopping you from finding love then the most important thing to do is make time to invest in your social life.
I think most of us forget that to meet people you will have to step out and socialize and especially for young people it is easier to just stay indoors but that might not be the best option.
IN THE END,
There are other variables except for career that could be at play in preventing your quest of finding love and while a career could be important, you will also need to examine the others.
@khaleesii, you bring up some valid points, I can definitely see where career choices could make a difference in finding your soul mate.
And the pandemic has probably been very tough on those looking for love, with all the quarantining that has been required this past year and a half.
If you know in advance some things in your heart that would make a true love match difficult it might be easier to avoid starting an involvement with a partner that you are predisposed not to be compatible with. But sometimes cupid's arrow finds us regardless of what we were looking for, lol.
I'm coming to your post from @dreemport.
The pandemic has been awful on those finding love, even in my case I wonder if it is even possible at this point hence I have been trying to research on different variables but hopefully cupid comes to our rescue.
There are cases where one finds love but will also be forced to give up on a particular career path just to make things work. To be fair on female folks tho, I think they're more at the receiving end of this.
Life's not balanced.
Yeah, this is true, especially for females, certain jobs can be so tasking that you would have to choose.
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The variables are more than these.
Personality matters more, no matter the career.
I do think careers can help push up the platform and chances of meeting. But subsequently.. No be career we go chop.
Exactly, there are more variables but this is something to consider also.
This is true and I have to agree with you. I feel that mostly in this part of the world, we marry because we are of age, not necessarily for love. We tend to grow into it because true love must have no class or career barrier. We shouldn't be able to choose who we fall in love with but sometimes we try to play it safe and weigh some options which is still okay though because love should be enjoyed and not endured.
Our love language also play a part in the kind of person we "choose". Imagine someone whose love language is touch and she decides to date a sailor...who would be on the sea for the better part of the year... It would be tough. So, we sometimes settle with those we can have easy access to as you have said and those whose career can fit into ours as we both make things work. So, yes, in a way, our career path somehow narrow things down for us.
But you know I love you, baby... We are both writers so our career path led us together ❤️😍
I think that's the mistake most people make, marrying just because they feel it's time.
Also the thing about love languages, most people don't realize how big that is and how many quarrels can be avoided simply by knowing and understanding your partner's love language.
I don't think a career is what I look at for love though, it is so myopic.
Absolutely, baby...it is too myopic and it has defeated the whole love thing. Yes, most people like to speak in the language they understand rather than act in the language their partner understands.
And it is very important to speak in your partner's language or else.
A lot would be lost in translation if that's not the case.
I think in my next relationship I would need to be intentional about this.
That would be amazing but I assume you are talking with me, right? 😍😍😍
True love will find its way no matter the profession. I believe I am in love with the individual, not the profession. Let people judge me by my character not by my profession. Some believe nurses will not be available at home always because of their job but for me,whatever profession is ok.
@dreemport brought me here
Yeah but you might think that but others don't so it is important to talk about it.
Career is a part
Also the individual's character - speaking from experience of course ;p
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I know that individual character is very important, most days more important than any other variable.
Apart from a police man. I wouldn't date or marry someone who is in the Army. I won't get to see him often so what's the point of the marriage. Again, with what I have seen Army folks do in Abuja, I wouldn't want my children's father to be an Army man. Nope. Not me.
There are a few careers I wouldn't date also but what happens when you find love without realizing it?
Gosh.... Let's not even go there. In fact, I don't want to talk about this anymore. I don run 😂😂🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️
😆 be running oh until you enter the arms of an army man.
🤣🤣🤣 babe, you no like me at all 😂😂😂
I do, you won't but just saying, it happens.
The universe has a way of playing around.
I completely understand, Love, I was just pulling your legs 🥺
to me i dont think any career can hamper any chance of one finding love, the beauty of these career thing is that it even create a plartform of people meeting and falling in love, so you see people in the same work space falling in love, all the same it depends on the perception of the individual involve
Not every career will create a platform for you to meet people, you know that right.
if it is not gender restricted
Even if jobs that aren't gender restricted, there are variables because you could be a doctor in a children's ward, in this case you might most likely never meet a single person.
i almost laughed out loud when i saw these......not that the doctor is just with the kids all the time right?...it's Hospital, so that means he's not working alone and that means he attends to others has well...my point is the whole working space is large enough to let influx of people from all angle, not basically the co-workers...
we probably find love in very strange ways don't you agree?
If you read what I wrote you will realize that I didn't say it was impossible, I was speaking about different variables and how they could affect the chances of finding love.
yah..nicely put,...looking out for more great content
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I think this is so true. I found this from @dreemsteem. I think that you spend a major portion of your time in your job. I think that where your job is can greatly determine who you date because you spend so much of your time there. It is true that you marry who you date, and where you spend most of your time is where your dating pool will be. Spend most of your time at the gym or church and work, then you will probably end up meeting people to date there. That isn't a bad thing, as you will have shared interests to build from.
Exactly, some people I know spend almost 10 hours in their jobs, that is pretty much half of their day so it is important to ask these questions especially if you aren't meeting people.