... and that's okay.
One of the best lessons I wished to have not learned the hard way in the School of Hard Knocks or University of Life is dealing with rejection or the fear of not being accepted by others.
I think that at some point in our lives, we all have that desire to be liked or respected because we are human beings, wired to care and be social, hence the need for connection and the longing for acceptance is most likely present in us one way or another.
The bad thing when letting the fear of rejection set in is that it produces domino effects. When that fear lurks in, every other negative emotions come out, re: overthinking which leads to a lot of "what ifs" which most likely will cause sadness, anger, stress, anxiety, low self-esteem and even depression.
Of course, we can avoid all these when we understand that just as we don't get to like every person we meet, not every single soul will like us too and it's absolutely okay.
This is the one thing that I often emphasize to my kids (nephews and nieces) whether we are spending time together or on our regular chats, hoping they will grasp it early on and they would know how to filter the noise around them.
I wish them to learn and understand that what they think and believe of themselves are what matters the most and that they hold the key to their own happiness. That they should not give a damn about other people's opinions about them and that the important thing is for them to be true to themselves, to listen to their own hearts, have fun, live their lives the way they know best and do what makes them happy.
There's so much truth to Aaron's words. Often times we fail to realize that we hold the power that sets us free from this kind of bandage that society or life throw at us. I sincerely hope that the younger generation will get to learn this much sooner especially that at this day and age, opinions are free and they float almost everywhere.
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That's great advice for your nephews, sis. Wanting to please others as long as it doesn't go against us is fine, but if they don't like us, we have to move on because it's not worth fighting for something that we can't control and that is not in our hands to change.
Not everyone is going to like us and that's life, the sooner we accept it, the happier we will be.
Thank you for joining the BOM, amiga 🤗
Thank you sis :) And very true what you said. dust off, move on and away from people who aren't worth our time hehe. Appreciate you lots for your amazing inputs.
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That's right, sis. It is not worth it to lose our time with that kind of people. Sometimes it's hard for us to realize it, but when we do, it's liberating.
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Fear is a dangerous thing. A friend of mine once said "all human emotions spring from love and fear, the positive ones, spring from love and the negative ones spring from the latter".
It is okay to have the feeling of fear, but tj day we let it consume us is the beginning of our end.
What a wonderful wisdom from your friend, thank you for sharing. And I agree with you, we should not let fear consume us 'coz we will be doing ourselves great damage.
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Indeed. Live life as the free bird that you are!
Yes! And fly freely :)
It is something more like what I believe strongly in, which is
That's a beautiful ideal. We should really do that and just better ourselves as we go along.
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Everyone who reads this fantastic information will learn a valuable lesson from it.
We are not capable to please everyone, and if you try, you will lose yourself in the process.
If you live a good life and do your best for everyone who comes your way,
People who love you for who you are will be pleased with you, and those who don't will walk away, that's how easy it is.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge, I learned from this. Continue to spread love and be happy always.
You succinctly shared great lessons my friend, thank you too for these. We definitely don't need to please anybody or else we will spend our lives being bitter and unhappy.
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And thank you as well. We learn from one another :)
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This3 is so inspiring. I so love your thoughts, and I agree with your words, CJ. Perhaps, not everyone will like us. Many claims that we cannot please everyone. And this is true. By the way, I wanted to ask if I can post in silver bloggers. Hehe. I saw others posting, but just wanted to know if I am welcome there. Hehe
Hello CJ, if you are an old soul and on your silver years (40 y/o above), you are very much welcome to post in the community.
And thank you for your kindest remarks. True indeed, we can never please everyone and it's absolutely okay.
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I see, hehe. That’s why I really asked because I have seen younger people posting there but when I read about the community rules, it was actually for silver bloggers. Thank you so much, CJ. Have a wonderful day.
Yes :) Although if I'm not mistaken, they make some exceptions but not so sure about it.
Thank you too and you're welcome. Have a lovely Wednesday❤
That is very nice that you have shared those beautiful lessons with your niece and nephew.
at least you have helped them to be prepared for what comes next into their lives.
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Many thanks Eka. I think it is one of the things that most struggle upon and some young people even become suicidal because they listen to other people's chatters.
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Unfortunately, we can't please everyone.. So better stick to those who truly accept us for who we really are 😊
Truth sis, we have that choice all along😉
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that's true, one good point that we should be teaching the kids, what matter is how you know and how much you accepted your own self. What others think of them or whatever their opinion is, shouldn't matter at all. Thanks for sharing this lesson. :)
Thank you sis. I observe that most young kids these days tend to get easily stressed or worried about what they think others might say or think about them.
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This is, arguably, the single greatest thing you can teach a person, I think. Well said!! 👏
This guidance works on so many levels. Really.
From living the life you want, to self love, to mental health to... well... it's the key to really being okay to be present in full no matter what life throws your way.
Wise words, my friend. And thanks for sharing some of that marvelous mind of yours.
Thank you lots too, Nicky for your kindest words. And I believe you because you have learned through life and you have been freed from these kinds of bandage :) Admittedly, this is one of the greatest things I've learnt to date :)
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And so are you :)
Excellent maxim to live by!!! Love this
It's the day you start living for yourself.
Thank you and very true, not caring so much of other people's chatters is living in peace and freedom.
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Thank you for the love!