I'm so sorry about your friend, I know how you feel... my aunt was diagnosed with cancer 3 months ago... I only found out about it a fortnight ago. She is undergoing chemotherapy.... but I don't know what will happen....
I wonder the same as you... they had plans, projects but my aunt and uncle didn't take advantage of the time, they didn't do anything and now this... but they are very closed people and if I try to talk like I once did .... it will be a fight. And I don't want that.
There are just people who think they are in the truth and they won't change.
Yes, I have wasted my time at times, the slaps of life made me react and I reversed that problem and now my time is very valuable and I make the most of it!
Big hug Galen!
I liked the comment about people thinking they're living their truth, delusion causes this sometimes, and also a genuine belief that it is so. Either way, we can only rule what we do personally; some persist in wasting their time and mental health, others do not.
Exactly, I can only decide for myself, I wanted to help but there was no room for my comment. I will concentrate on me.