Several sorts of reactions emerge when we say or do things in our daily interactions with people. Some of those reactions may be receptive to whatever we said or did, but some reactions will come from people who find our words or actions to be offensive.
I care about the words I say and I pay special attention to my actions towards people. When I notice that people are going bonkers because they feel offended by my words or action, I'm always willing to say "I'm sorry about..." and I genuinely don't hesitate to apologize whenever I shat the bed.
However, I'm someone who doesn't take my words lightly. If I'm saying "Hey, I'm sorry". I say it because I understand what I did wrong. I say it because I'm genuinely sorry for doing or saying whatever got you offended. Also, I make sure I won't be doing that offensive stuff again. That's the pattern that my apology follows.
In situations where someone or people are offended because of what I said or did and it turns out that I'm wrong about that, it has become too late to take back the words or action, but I know I can say that I'm sorry and I will mean every word of it.
However, there are circumstances where people feel offended by what I've said or did and it turns out that I've done nothing wrong. In such cases, getting an apology out of me is nearly impossible.
An incident that generally manifests this is a seminar which I was invited to in January 2022. It was a seminar organized for youths in the Catholic Deanery of Ibadan. I've only lived in Ibadan for 4 months when I got the invite to come appear as one of the speakers and give a talk about Cryptocurrency and Content Creation as a whole. Some of the organizers knew I was all about that area of life and I honored the invitation.
On the D-Day, we had up to a hundred youths in attendance and when I spoke about Cryptocurrency and Content Creation, a lot of them showed interest. This was also the season when University students were on strike and a lot of them needed money. I got close to 30 people who particularly saw this as an opportunity to grow.
I did beyond what I was meant to do and carved out time to teach them for as long as necessary. They had access to my Discord and were free to come ask questions about anything and everything related to Content Creation on Hive. I ran out of HP delegations, and even had to get some of my friends on Hive to support them with HP. For the record, this was before RC delegation became a thing.
After a few weeks, I noticed that some of them just opened the account, made their introductory post, and bummed off. Some were too lazy to come up with a decent blog post. Just a bunch of low-effort posts. Trust me, I know what I mean by "low-effort posts".
At some point, some of their actions started drawing the sort of attention that I didn't enjoy. So, I had to make a move to see what on earth was going on. I managed to organize a physical meetup with them so I can be looking them in the eyes when we converse. During the meeting, I asked when they choose to run their account the way they do.
The whole response from them generally translates into;
I don't get a good vote.
I don't have enough data to spend time engaging in people's posts.
I don't know how to write.
I am always busy.
That's fair enough. However, some people have it worse and they are still doing the work. They make a genuine effort and they do it consistently until things start to click. I told them that I was not pleased with their action and showed each of them what they were doing wrong. I didn't care about sugarcoating words right there and some of them didn't enjoy that conversation.
Well, those who allowed themselves to be corrected learned and improved. However, those who were more interested in getting told that they were doing just fine even when they were getting it wrong ended up feeling the repercussions.
I wasn't and have never been one to spend time on something or someone who takes it for granted. Also, I have no apologies for calling someone out when he/she messes up.
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I know how it feels when you go out of your way to teach someone something, hopeful that they would make good use of the knowledge but they turn around and rubbish your effort. It hurts to the marrows so I can relate.
We are so alike. I do not find it difficult to say sorry but I only say it when I know I sincerely mean it. I don't just say it for peace to reign.
True. I don't enjoy saying sorry just because I want peace to reign. I enjoy peace, but I want to earn that peace and it is usually earned by being capable of facing situations head-on to call out disgusting behaviors especially when it's being done by people who I associate with regularly.
Some of those people I onboarded messed up the opportunity and everything I did would have been a wasted effort. Thankfully, there are a few of the people I onboarded and they have been thriving.
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I love the fact that you didn't sugarcoat words and told them how it is.
Not everybody can dedicate time to onboard people and still create time for them. You did all that and some are not taking it seriously. They just don't know what you gave them and you did well in talking some sense into them.
Thank you so much for all you do.
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Thanks so much oooo. Being an onboarder is a journey of service and genuine sacrifice. We don't ask them for money. We just want the best for them because we know what we enjoy here.
A lot of them don't want to take up the opportunities. Instead, they waste their chance of improving their finances.
We will always do our best for those that deserve it. However, anyone that wants to waste our time will surely get a piece of our unfiltered reaction.
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No matter how you try to sound polite to some people in correcting them, the fact that you are telling them they are doing wrong is offensive to them and you took the best decision in resolving the situation. Thank you for sharing and please if you don’t mind I would like to learn the basics of crypto so I can get involved.
You are correct about the way people react to the truth. A lot of people don't know how to accept the truth, especially when it exposes them. We sure won't stop saying the truth. Hehe.
Welcome on board and I'm glad you are interested in learning more about Cryptocurrency.
There is no specific starting point in the learning experience. The ecosystem is huge and there is no limit to what we can learn.
Since you are already on Hive, I would suggest you get a good understanding of Hive Power (HP) & HBD Savings. You can also curiously dig into Hive engine tokens. If there are any questions along the line, feel free to buzz me and I will make things clearer.
The good news in all these is that Crypto is learnable. Welcome onboard this Web3 adventure
Thank you 😊
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Honestly, there are some communications that are best done face to face where you see the whole expression about the person, especially the eyes which contains a lot of information. You did well to meet them physically.
Wow! You ran out of HP, how did you manage to keep up on Hive?
People need to be open in order to learn, learn new things and learn from their mistakes which improves growth that can't be hidden.
You did your best and the pattern in which your apology follows is right, especially making sure not to repeat that which you're sorry about.
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True. The internet is good and I'm glad you have technologies that make it easier for us to reach out to people without going through the stress of traveling. However, there are some things that needs to be done physically so you would look people in the eye and see if their facial expression is aligning with the words that are coming out of their month. Haha.
I really gave out my HP ooooo. I gave it to the bare minimum and even had to get friends in here to help me support others with HP. Now, RC delegation has solved that issue. Hehe.
Yeah, that's the trick. Also, there are some situations one would prefer a call or voice note to text messages.
You did a good job for them, but few recognized it.
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Thanks for this exemple of yours. Nice points.
Also, it's all about the Art of Communication. The moment we "tell" someone what or how, we'll get the "no-no" hand. That's just how the human brain functions.
And as long i have all the respect for my own nature and be impeccable with my words to myself, there is no need for any apologies ever.
That's true. It's left for us to set that standard for ourselves and we have to also use our actions to show people exactly how we want to be treated.
I don't want to be the guy who apologizes to everyone. So, I try as much as possible to avoid doing things that will make me apologetic.
Sounds perfect... and as you say, living the way of life's truth so everyone is able to see what that would be like.
Personally i know that when i need to apologize, which i surely will, that i wasn't living in consciousness that moment.
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I can imagine your frustration on having to go out of your way to help them only for them to be nonchalant and uncommitted.
True. You would think they would embrace the opportunity, but a lot of them wanted a get-rich-quick scheme.
I call out their actions and they didn't enjoy that. Haha
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I'd taken a similar step of I were in your shoes. The motivation to share knowledge is the event that the recipients makes use of it. Many people preferred being spoonfed but in content creation that's not practically possible.
That's exactly the case. They want to enjoy the monetary reward, but they don't show up to do the work. Even when they show up, they do a haphazard work.
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