Many of us form relationships without truly evaluating how they impact our lives. They often arise out of convenience or transactions, yet we hardly pause to consider who we're really in bed with.
We can get so blindsided by what we really want that we miss what we should really see. And in relationships, not many people want to do the real work of evaluating the kinds they keep, their values, and the people they keep around. Soner or later anyway, everything unfolds by itself, but hopefully not when it's too late.
How exactly is the relationship serving you? It's not all about what you gain in the partnerships or friendships you keep, but also how both parties influence themselves. What habits or traits are you picking up from these relationships? I think, at some point in regular communication and interactions, you just pick up one or two things. They either help you grow or just degrade you slowly.
Our interactions with others often reveal deeper truths. For instance, I once observed how loyal, kind, and trustworthy a friend was to her roommate and people she called her friends that I fully realised that what she had with me was pretty much the same with other people. On the contrary, another friend I had would always pick up one fight or the other with someone, one way or another, and even talk about them in their backs. If you're always talking about other people and how bad they are, you're probably going to do the same about me someday, if you already aren't.
If a relationship is dragging you down, consider letting it go. The ones that are healthy, invest in them and see how to better keep them flourishing. Know who you're in bed with. As the year draws close to an end, take a moment to reflect: Who are you in bed with, and how are they shaping the person you're becoming?
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I believe it's crucial to reserve that special spot in bed for someone who truly deserves it. People get into relationships for all kinds of reasons. Some individuals enter relationships for emotional or physical connection, while others do so for convenience, fear, insecurity, loneliness, or codependency, among other reasons. Regardless of the reasons, my advice, having navigated various relationship landscapes, is to establish boundaries and get to know a person before proceeding to the next stage. And most importantly, find yourself. Get to know yourself - your values, strengths, and flaws - before getting involved with anyone, because once you're in that relationship, it's pretty hard to juggle caring for someone while trying to care for ourselves in all aspects—spiritually, physically, emotionally, and mentally.
It took me a long time to learn - and I learned a very hard way - that to truly be able to love someone, you first have to love yourself, recognise who you are, your strengths and flaws. Otherwise, someone else is going to do that define you for you, and it often isn't pretty and eventually messes one up. I appreciate your advise, and I consider it a good reminder of a lesson.
I've been there and done that 😅. It's a difficult lesson to learn, especially since life tends to teach it in the hardest ways. When you really love yourself and get to know who you are, it sets the stage for better and more satisfying relationships. I'm really happy to hear that my advice resonated with you, and I truly appreciate your thoughtful response. It's a little nudge for us to keep celebrating our strengths and flaws as part of this lovely, ongoing journey of self-love.💕
I guess we get a piece of life at some point. I appreciate the wisdom you shared with me. Happy New year!
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In relationships no one wants to put in work these days. It's all about having a good time and getting out forgetting the impact it'd have on the next person.
It is really important that we get to fully know who we want to share a bed with.
Hmmm...the next person.
That's an interesting statement
😅... I see..
Season's greetings @olujay
This is the real truth of the matter. The people we surround ourselves with can make or break us. This is worth thinking about twice, who we let into our lives, right? They either lift us up or drag us down. This is what we need to think about.
Wise words, man. Good to know people's stands in our lives.
Yeah bro
I couldn't agree more with you. And just like the saying, "show me your friend and I'll tell you who you are". The type of friends we keep either influence us positively or negatively, and definitely it's hard to let go especially if theyre supportive in other areas like being there for you emotionally.
Emotional attachment do make us feel stuck in such situations. But we should consider regular friendship evaluations so we know what we're doing.
Yeah