Is there anyone that likes too much drama or enjoys constant hurt?
This is a question I ask myself almost everytime because I'd love to get counsel from this kind of person on how to deal/cope with humans of this nature.
In my circle of friends, (we were three and really close) in the real world there's this one girl who is very negative and feels she should be the only one in the spotlight. Most times you relate your feelings to her, instead of her thinking of possible solutions or saying something like "you'll be fine", she'll turn around and tell you about her own feelings. She'll take up the conversation and make it about herself and if at all at some point she mistakenly says "it'll be fine" just know that the next day when it's all over, she'll make fun of everything.
We noticed this attitude of hers and right now, she's really no longer in the circle, it's been years of knowing her and sticking around thinking one day she'd learn from us but she only grew worse. The relationship with her atp is very distant, I wouldn't say it's non existent because we practically see ourselves in school everyday. Atp she's feeling bad we're distancing from her but she has refused to examine herself or ask real question that could bring her back to the circle.
I'm already a sad person and need positivity around me by all cost so I don't lose my mind. It can only get worse having someone who's always negative and mocking around. Even in my sadness, I don't take people's feelings for granted, I buckle up my own feeling when someone is trying to confide in me and make sure I try to find solution.
In essence, I don't think I would stick around with an overly judgemental, always mocking, self centered human all in the name of friendship. I love peace of mind and when I find a little of it, I hold on like never before. I've grown distant from lots of people but that doesn't mean I keep a long face each time I see them, we greet and move on.
A constantly negative person who isn't remorseful of whatever action he or she put up to hurt another doesn't deserve a place in anyone's heart.
I feel you. Sadly, I'm not sure how much it's possible for such people to learn from others as you say (though I too have had that hope for some people I know). I think a lot of this negativity stems from insecurity and self-doubt, which in turn lead us back further into trauma. In other words, it's very hard for these people to rewire their brains because for many, negativity acts as a coping mechanism.
That being said, I don't think it's anyone else's duty to stick by them and tolerate this sort of toxic behavior just so that they don't "seem mean". I think it's paramount to cut out people who are more harmful than good, because you need to take care of yourself and your energy before you can help others.
I see myself in this answer a lot, though I would add that, of the little I know of you, you don't seem like such a sad person :) Just someone with ups and downs, like all of us. Wishing you a blessed day, my friend :)
I think so too but why should anyone be insecure around someone who just wants them in their live?
Fact!
When the ups and downs are too much to handle what crawls in other than sadness and depression? I try my best to make sure I get to smile daily and I bottle up feelings a lot. Sometimes when it seems like I'm going crazy I come on here to read posts at least that'll keep me away from my troubled mind for a while or I just step out into fresh air.
Good question. They don't feel worthy of love? Like they're not someone you should want in your life? That's what I'd guess.
Let that shit out, my friend. Don't bottle it up. You'll be lighter, and just feel better when you stop hiding your truth. If there's pain, why not try and let yourself feel it? Or rage, or anger, or frustration. Those are normal emotions, too, and the sooner you embrace them, the sooner you let that stuff wash away. <3
Seconded!
I'm trying my best dear. Slowly I'm letting them out and I really hope to feel lighter soon.
Your words are always calming. I'm glad I met you Honey 💜💜💜.