There are things we believed but changes due what we experience everyday as we live on.
One of my most believes back then is keeping virginity till weeding night. Oh, the way I was brought up,you know Christian home, teachings and all. My mother will tell me the benefits of keeping ones virginity till weeding night, the girl will be forever respected, will gain her husband trust. She told me any prayers of such person will be easily answered and all that, if you see me arguing with people then about this topic ,you will think I have been promised forever life based on it, I really took it personally that I became to judge people as well .
But as I grow and experience life more, I got to find out it's a lie, I don't know if it all works during my mother's time then but not anymore because I have seen ladies who kept their virginity till their weeding night and still get abused by their husband and got divorced a year after and i have seen ladies who was not a virgin on knowing their husband and their husband cherish them to the moon.
I got to realize that keeping virginity isn't to get a perfect man for yourself, it's just all about keeping your dignity, it's doesn't defy you of good life , opportunities or not.
In this era we are in now, I would advise any lady to know the sex capacity of the man you want to marry , cos I have seen marriages break because the sex, yes,sex!
I hear men complain their wife can't satisfy them and they cheat or decide to marry another wife,while some ladies cheat just because their husband can't satisfy them sexually.
The second one which is the funniest is the fact that I believed I will be relieved of my monthly pains when I finally gave birth. I hear some ladies don't even know what is called menstrual cramps, some will even tell you they crave for sweet things like chocolate and the stuff when they are on and am like even quitting anything sweet a week before my monthly flow comes,I will still be in pain on the arrival. So, I was told that when I eventually give birth,I will feel the pain no more,so, I have been giving myself hope that I won't feel this pain again in some years later but then I watched a video made by taooma ,a Nigeria comedian,she said in that video that what she is about to say is not a comedy but real. She said, she now has a baby and something she has been looking up to that would happen when she gave birth is not happening, that are monthly period still comes with pain and this is not what she was told na.
On watching this video, I felt bad that I have been hoping on a lie. If you do have painful monthly period, this is from me to you 🥰🥰🥰. We are strong 💪💪💪
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Keeping virginity is likened to a lady keeping her dignity to her husband finds her. The problem, I think, is that marrying wrong just makes the whole process of keeping virginity look like a waste. Besides, virginity is just a factor among many other things that keeps a marriage.
Sex satisfaction is a big problem, I don't encourage sex before marriage. Aside natural cause of higher libido in any of the partner, some people have done and explored a lot before marriage, then they settle with a fresh individual who has little or no experience compared to theirs, of course there would be problem of satisfaction.
Girls, ladies, women will continue to experience menstrual cycles as long as there are eggs in their ovaries.
Keeping virginity is nothing bad but for the fact you feel everything will go bad for you because you lose it is a 'no no ' and no sex before marriage has been my advice but alot of scene made me change my mind. I have been hoping on nothing my brother as for the menstrual pain ooo. Thanks for reading through
Louder please!!! 👏👏 The topic of keeping virginity or practicing sexual abstinence is one that circles back to it being a personal decision and determination.
When you tell a kid to abstain from a cookie jar, it only sparks more curiosity in the kid. I wish most Nigerian parents would be more open to having actual conversations with their kids once the kids get to certain age than imposing some fear or strict rules because eventually, what will be will be.
There are lot of girls in this world that don't care about things like sexual abstinence and they end up marrying well and there are some that keep it intact and marry wrong. And that's why the most important aspect of it is knowing why you're doing it. To get closer to God, to have mental clarity or to keep yourself and self-respect as a women. Keeping it for a man should not even be a reason at all.
Because at the end of the day, what the man is honoring is not the hymen, it's your self-respect.
Lol your past beliefs though, very funny and I don't think it's just you that had them. Especially about the menstrual cramp, I would say mine is more of a wish than a belief that it would stop when I give birth 😅
🤣🤣🤣we have been hoping on nothing ooo my sis😂. Thanks for reading through sis
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STOPWomen who keep virginity to please a man are a lost cause in my books. A man won’t be man just because of a “hymen”. I feel sorry for ladies who still reason that way. Virginity will not make God come down and fight all your battles SMBBL…
And for the second I think it varies. My mom told me she stopped feeling pain after giving birth. In fact. The women in my family all had the same testimony to give. And then a girl I know that gave birth rather early. She also confirmed this. So I think it varies.
Yea, men are just men. This your testimony is about to lose my hope again ooo, hmmmm🤔 but do they also experience severe pain before, cos pains are different ooo, I have friends that do not feel much pain, just for an hour and it's gone.
Well, men tends to make a boast outside to their follow friend when they married their wife as a virgin.
It is dignity to a woman, and a very strong pride to a man having known that no one has touch his wife before. It is just these days that things has change. But virginity both in man and woman was really a gift and a pride.
Talking of sexual capability and compatibility, you will never know your sexual capacity, if you had kept yourself and married as a virgin. Again you will not try to judge weather the man is compactable or not, because you don't have any other person you can compare him to; you will think and believe that, that is how it is normally, until you brake the rules by cheating on him with another man, only then will you be able to measure the strength and compatibility. Note; cheating is not an advice.
Yea. It is a pride for the woman ,not her believing any man would cherish her just because of that. If her man eventually appreciates her for that ,fine, but if not ,she won't be disappointed. A man can cherish you wholeheartedly whether you are or not a virgin. Thanks for engaging
You've said well!
Also, I think as we continue to grow, certain standing beliefs will lose their essencs because we now know better.
I can't help but laugh 😂😂😂
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