I'm a firm believer in making decisions for oneself. Listen to other people's perspectives sure; Their insight, past experiences, or information may help us see things differently and from angles we may not have considered, however the decision itself has to be ones' own. In my opinion.
I believe this as I am a believer in ownership of self; Of ones' actions, attitudes, responsibilities and ultimately success and failures. Being lead into a decision shifts that ownership away from oneself opening up potential issues later.
I agree with the "do your soul a favour and trust yourself" comment you make...But not just because we may know what's best for ourselves, or should trust in ourselves...Doing so shows ownership and removes the possibility for resentment towards another person if the decision they may have lead us to making didn't go to plan or as foreseen. Make the decision yourself and there's no one to blame, except oneself.
Ultimately we are responsible to ourselves and making decisions with that premise in mind is a more satisfactory method. We get to own our success, and of course, our failures too. But hey, failure brings us closer to success so I've never been afraid of it, or of making hard decisions on my own.
It's just how I am. It has worked for me.
Good post AK.
I asked my teenage son his observations on why many people his age resist so when faced with making a decision.
He said it's because they feel their future is uncertain. And because so many of them have so much handed to them, not only by their parents but by programs in society, their schools, etc. He said that pretty much anything one needs will be given to them. By someone... So they really don't feel the need to have to make any decisions...
This is a frightening thought...
I applaud your way of life. Taking responsibility for ones own actions is brave and shows strong character.
[Gulp...] Yep, that's some scary sh*t right there...That expectation ethos that the young people have...They'll find out too late that they were wrong, in my humble opinion.