Thank you. Two words I never, EVER thought I would look at as I do now. I knew a man once, a friend who did not like me saying thank you to him – I never really understood why and for as much as I respected that, it simultaneously became a standing joke between us because I would say it completely unintentionally and then we would laugh.
I know the awkwardness which can follow a “thank you” because words of response fail and confidence of any kind evades us in that particular moment. I don’t know about any of you, but I am not particularly good at receiving compliments. They make me feel uncomfortable mostly. I never know which way to look nor what to say. Online also, is actually no easier. I am close to one of those people that will get the giggles at a funeral or an announcement of someone’s passing – and it has nothing to do with disrespect – it is purely and simply my insecurity in action… I don’t know what to say, how to respond and more often than not, I end up with foot in mouth syndrome, say something dumb and walk away feeling like a complete moron for the next little while.
“Thank You” can mean so many things and I would say that pretty much most of those variants are positively rooted, so perceiving a “Thank You” as a slap in the face or insult is not really what anybody would expect – I didn’t! I have thought about these words delivered with denied explanation repeatedly for the last day or so and it does nothing more than infuriate me. That is the thing about communication… it is not important, nor pivotal – it is absolutely critical and when it is lacking it becomes nothing short of a breeding ground for all the wrong things. I suppose, this in itself is the primary problem I have had for the last… almost a decade – and apparently still sit with.
Thank you for everything you did for me? Thank you for “you”? Thank you for the time together? Thank you for the life lessons? Thank you for the good food? Or, Thank You for having the courage to end something which I wanted to finish, but never had the courage to? This is what lack of communication creates… uncertainty, frustration, annoyance, RAGE – ALL of the above!
When you are afforded no clarity, you have to move on to create your own. Throw yourself into the water face first, choke and then pull yourself right out again – suddenly you hold a completely new perspective. Anything in life which is challenged to the point of suffocation will bring about an entirely different animal! – and here I sit… saying “Thank you” in return.
So many times along the way I have thought I knew what was best for me, but life… has often shown me different. Thank you for retrospective perspective, the realisation that I am a mother before I am ANYTHING else and that I deserve to be loved COMPLETELY by someone who wants nothing more than everything I have to offer as well as embracing my son and cherishing that! THANK YOU! Thank you for ALL of it – the life and lessons enveloped! Thank You - Time to add a new ink symbol to the collection.
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Until next time...
Much Love from Cape Town, South Africa xxx
Jaynielea
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This is like some common practice for all people to say thank you whatever in font of your opposition, thank you- reduce lots of eggo too.
It certainly can do - yes, but not always. Not in this instance.
Hope you are well.
On the subject of thank you, at least for me, I don't like receiving it when it is for something I see as my duty to do, my responsibility. This includes, doing the right thing.
Hi Taraz.
Always nice to see you pop up in my comments. I am alive and kicking - thanks for asking.
Really appreciate your input on this - seems you are as apt as your brother when it comes to reading between the lines - what actually matters and what does not. Your response made me think about the things I "actually" need to. I would say "thank you", but yeah... lol :)
Ah, the irony ;D
It is good to take a step back at these times as often it looks like there is a fork in the road but that is not the case, there are many. Take your time, there is no reason to rush.
You are so right - there are always many and no, I am in no rush - however, having said that... I know EXACTLY what I want and where I am headed. Age, wisdom and an overflowing bucket of "opfoks" (am pretty certain I don't need to give the English translation for that) as we like to call them here in SA has taught me to slow down to a pace which actually works with reality. :) This helps a generous amount with clarity and decision making thank goodness, lol.
... I think I just admitted to being grateful for getting old haha! I am good with that.
I got the context, but I had to google it for precision :)
As they say, it is best to "age gracefully"
Alas, that may never be my strong suit... growing up surrounded (and raised) by four men made "grace" damn near impossible... but, I live and learn, haha! :)
" I deserve to be loved COMPLETELY by someone who wants nothing more than everything I have to offer"
Oh Janey, you truly honestly touched my heart this morning. ❤️
Hope that was a good thing honey xxx
How are you doing?
I don't know you personally but I envy you for a being full time mother, it's a full time job and constantly active on Hive and your community projects. You're superwoman!
I hope you everything is doing well on your end.
I am breathing, smiling and looking forwards! So, I suppose I am good thank you for asking.
We can change this :)
Thank you. I really appreciate that! I do not see it the same way, but value that you do. So many "superwomen" around here... yourself included!
We all go through a crisis or struggles in life and I love the positive affirmations.
I think giving compliments to each other even on small little things gives us a strong good emotional mark and sometimes even helps us motivate to get through the day.
Oh yeah, we can all be superwomen! Thanks for boosting my confidence! We should open your favorite wine, now, should we? And I'll make my cheese board, haha!
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Thank God for retrospective perspective!!!
So much to be thankful for!
Truth!
An honest and heartfelt thank you doesn't require words in return, or so I have found it.
Saying thank you is a courtesy, polite acknowledgement and a show of gratitude and not a barbed response...Or shouldn't be.
It's emotion brought forth in words for something valued given, or offered, by someone else. I never expect words in reply; Me giving thanks to another is enough because they have already earned it in whatever way caused the gratitude in the first place.
It seems a difficult thing to say these days though, or maybe it's just that so many people have lost the ability to be courteous and polite. It is a very valuable couple of words though and said correctly, that is to say with genuine intent and gratitude, can set a person apart and also make someone else's heart sing. A simple thank you has great power and I enjoy offering it to those who deserve it.
It can also have the effect this particular thank you has had upon you; A negative one due to the lack of perspective as you say. Lack of communication can be blamed for many negative reactions and that's why it's so critical to get it right, especially between people who [supposedly] love and respect each other. If there's no, or little, communication there's not much there at all, if anything. Communication is everything.
Jaynie, I hope someone's callous use of the words thank you haven't left them tainted for you - When offered respectfully and genuinely they are wondrous and I'd like to think that when I offer those words to you they will be received as they're given; That is, with genuine emotion and clarity of purpose.
Thank you Jaynie. You know why. A heartfelt, honest and very clear thank you.
Said like ONLY you know how to! You forever leave me speechless.
I do. and Galen, thank you too.
Don't be speechless...You say so many awesome things. Although, yeah I guess sometimes words aren't needed.
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You know, I actually try to use the term "thank you" as often as I can. There are definitely people who feel uncomfortable receiving a compliment, but I do my best to try to help people feel positive, and a 'thank you' certainly helps.
I also try to use "yes ma'am/sir" when appropriate. Sometimes it's more appropriate than other times, and not always for a show of respect. 😁
Whoa a sizzling hawt pic, plus Alanis, and sprinkled with your no BS, straight from the gut writing has got to equal one of the best posts ever TBH. 🙂
Like any communication, "thank you's" can be tricky. Having to fill in the blanks leads to over analyzing and filling in our own take (doubts, fears, anger etc) Especially in the world of text, so much is lost compared to speech. (I know you can "OK Boomer" me lol). However besides all that, I believe we have reached a certain high level of maturity when we can look at a sucky situation and be thankful for life lessons. Gotta make the best of the worst of it.