It is free will all the way down. (for this planet)
In between lives, you, and you, and you, and many guides/angels work with you and other beings to plan out your life. Talking to and discussing your birth with your parents, how, why, and where. (like you specifically decide your astrology chart)
Now, a web of contingencies are planned/prepared, but this is more about the structure over there. Such as, say you plan to be born as a Leo in 1990, this also has echos of Leo in 1989 and 1991
Much planning is involved, and arrangements with EVERY important person person in your life is discussed and made.
What you call destiny was all you. And, you are here, right now, and can make almost any choice in steering your life.
right! cant reeally complain then can i. or better said.. only one person to blame!
No, there is more YOU than just you. And so, if you are applying blame, or outrage, there is plenty of other-you to yell at.
However, blame doesn't usually help. Usually the problem inside you is that you are feeling singled out, attacked, hurt. And why would you do that to yourself?
The solution is usually finding out the real, the root cause of what your life/ life lessons are. Then you can more easily comprehend what is happening.