Yes, that's the horror and deepest danger of gaslighting, it confuses everyone involved. It's really hard for people who find themselves on the receiving end of the issue, to find peace, reclaim their space and not develop grudges against the perpetrators.
My love for my sisters and the firm knowledge that they too respond to their own resentment and doubts, has allowed me to take on these things more effective, and I'm extremely grateful for that. Also, very grateful for your comment and your insights! Glad you learned something from my experience!!