Putting the needs of the individual first is really only possible (a) if there are safety nets for food-imcome-shelter or if you are callous, unfeeling or uncaring if there aren't. Ultimately my own daughter will judge me too if I let her father and brother starve. So it's never quite that simple.
The different cultural values sure do stretch me personally though!! On a good day I mutter a lot.... 😆 Great advice to make sure I keep my own cup very full. 😍
Yes, I understand that the situation is far more complicated than it seems. It just appears to be very hard from the outside, you have some super hero skills to be able to put up with the situation mentally.
I hope you take care of your own soul as it is easy to reach burnout