Ay ay ay I just cringed , you definetely have a lot of inner strenght to do this, so many women would have said bye bye have a safe road , what a hard task you have taken upon yourself! I really admire you because this is something I suspect I would not have been able to do, although I like to see myself as a good person.....
The mentality of the village...well, there is some truth in it. But I believe in putting the needs of the individual first . I mean you can't pour from an empty cup.
It is sad that some men are so iresponsible, spreading their seed wherever they go, without thinking about the fact that they can't be a provider. I don't know what to believe about people who act like this. You have handled very well a tricky nerve wrecking situation.
I hope that you will also take care of your own heart and soul. Because it matters.
Putting the needs of the individual first is really only possible (a) if there are safety nets for food-imcome-shelter or if you are callous, unfeeling or uncaring if there aren't. Ultimately my own daughter will judge me too if I let her father and brother starve. So it's never quite that simple.
The different cultural values sure do stretch me personally though!! On a good day I mutter a lot.... 😆 Great advice to make sure I keep my own cup very full. 😍
Yes, I understand that the situation is far more complicated than it seems. It just appears to be very hard from the outside, you have some super hero skills to be able to put up with the situation mentally.
I hope you take care of your own soul as it is easy to reach burnout