Today is one of my favorite days of the week! @ablaze started #threetunetuesday awhile back, to encourage us to share the music we love. Hivians hail from all parts of the world, and each week I am always astonished by the diversity of tunes! As the man himself says "It's Class" 😁
Last week I had the pleasure of running into a post by @whywhy, which featured a give away centered around a "Tune Train"- a connection between the three songs. Annnnnnnd- I guessed it! What a brilliant feeling 😊! So today, I am doing a giveaway of my own to spread the smiles!
This week I will pose a few questions in my post, if one inspires you, comment your thoughts on it! A week from now, I will award 1 HBI to three commenters based on the quality of their answers.
I'm a huge fan of the band IDLES! A handful of weeks back, I shared my experience at a concert of theirs. I've been climbing out of a funk, and the interactions I had there, along with the beautiful spirit of the fans, was one of the first steppingstones to better days for me.
Like a good show will do to you, I could NOT stop listening to them for WEEKS... well, I shouldn't even define the period of time, because their beautiful sound still echoes in my home on a daily basis.
The first song I'm sharing is not by IDLES, it is by Sleaford Mods, which is relevant for a few reasons. The first of which is that @killerwot turned me on to them, in the comment section of my above post 😁 I absolutely love their funky punk vibe!
Speaking of @killerwot, he's helping make a hive documentary- how flipping cool is that?! He also works on the lore for the psyberX project, writes wicked cool sci-fi stories, and talks about some techy game stuff that I don't totally get... but it's interesting! He obvi has great music taste- oh, and he's gonna be a dad soon! You should check him out if you're not hip 😎
Mork and Mindy- Sleaford Mods
It was hella difficult to select ONE tune from this band, but I kept leaning towards this banger. It happens to be the first song youtube landed me on. I was trying to wind down after a frustrating day with the littles- my youngest seems to be sprouting teeth like a shark... OK THAT'S DRAMATIC...
Daaaaaance it out. That's my answer. I've said it before, and I'll probably say it again. Movement and music is SOUL medicine 😍 Get up and stomp out some issues, wiggle away from what brings you down.
DO IT
Or not... I'm not the boss of you. I love this song because the moment I heard it, my body started to move itself! I had a blast shaking through my first listen, and that is SHARE WORTHY!
My next song will highlight why I made the statement about IDLES above- for real, I almost just did three tunes from them! I think for this week, just this one will do however. Cause it's a BIG ONE!
Samaritans
Man up, sit down
Chin up, pipe down
Socks up, don't cry
Drink up, just lie
"Grow some balls," he said
"Grow some balls"
I struggled R E A L L Y hard with the decision to post this song, because it addresses an issue that people tend to get super up in arms over. Toxic Masculinity. Does that phrase make you mad?
If so, there's a very good chance that it doesn't mean what you think it does. It CERTAINLY does NOT mean that masculinity itself is toxic. Nope. Not one bit. It is the idea that this expectation of ideal "masculinity" is toxic to men- really to everyone. Being a man isn't about suffering in silence, taking on more than you can... but society seems to tell men that it is. This is harmful.
I remember going to see a movie in theaters with my dad, I can no longer remember what the film was... I'll never forget the most important scene though, which unfolded right next to me.
My father sniffled, and I looked up at his face. My dad is 6'2, a fucking goliath. He used to run 5 miles a day just to stay sharp, he did it with me on his shoulders when I was tiny. My big strong dad had a few tears on his cheeks. CONCERN.
I didn't even know my dad COULD cry, in the way that kids just have no frame of reference but wonder. We spoke about it later and he told me, "Well, when a movie is really beautiful, then it's OKAY for men to cry a bit. It's human." I can hear him in my head now decades later, clear as day.
I want to go back and tell him, "It's always human dad, PEOPLE cry." so instead I'll tell you. If being "enough" of a man makes you think you can't express yourself THAT'S BULLSHIT!
"I'm a real boy, Boy, and I cry. I like myself, and I want to try."
Joe Talbot, the singer of IDLES, has repeatedly talked about how the expectations set on men have hurt him. At one point in the song he yells "I kissed a boy and I liked it!" an extremely bold statement in the punk community. This tune is a protest to sterotypes.
Joe cries, he embraces who he is even if it might lose him fans, he talks about his pain. Losing a child, the alcoholism of his mother, difficulties in connecting with the world because of personal damage. I deeply admire that bravery, that fight for the next generation of WHOLE people.
Let's wind down with some good ole silliness 😁 You may remember from my #ttt post where I shared "Impression that I get", I just ADORE talented nonsense! Here is another shining example of that, which brings me great joy:
Down at McDonaldz- Electric Six
NoweverybodydownatMcDonnellzzztheydownwithRonnellMcDonnellandnowtheyhittingthebottleandeverybody COOOOOL! Yep. That's what he said!
This song makes me think of teenage years, drinking vodka mixed into our soda cups, lurking in parking lots until our curfews called us home. Although, for my gang, it was BK all DAY.
For me personally, I was a naughty kid. I feel for my dad, I really do. I was always on the edge of expulsion or getting expelled. Constantly suspended, (Why would they suspend you for skipping school? Bad job being truant, now go do it with our blessing! huh?) the cops called my pops to come get me more than once... I just got in trouble man!
You know what made me wise up though? The shared experience, and good advice of awesome friends. So, I will end with one last question for you:
As always, it was fun to share some songs I love with the community! I am excited for my first ever giveaway, and hope that one or more of my questions encouraged you to participate! In total I asked five things, pick one, or all of them if you'd like! Next Tuesday, I will announce the winners in my post!
Some great tunes here I love that Sleaford Mods one, I'm glad you're liking them, they're a really cool band! Also, Electric Six are so funny my band actually supported them 3 years ago in Belfast and Dublin, which was sick, then Covid ruined everything, but, we're on our back up, supporting some big bands in a few upcoming gigs!
1./ I think when I'm a bit overwhelmed, music helps, either listening to headphones and daydreaming, or playing it, or writing, that's a big one too, anything creative really I think is important.
2./ MDMA, LOL, nah, well... haha no. Probably not the healthiest method. A friend of mine never talks about serious stuff unless he's had a few drinks, he's not the most confident person and in general, he doesn't come out and say anything, sometimes it's like pulling teeth. I could talk to a brick wall, so being quiet about things has never been my thing. I think for anyone's mental health, it's important to voice issues, but, each person is different so kind of has to be treated differently. I've known the guy since we were both 7 so I can kind of deal with him, we act accordingly, depending on the issue. Friendships and close bonds I think are the only way for some people to get through an issue with someone they trust.
3./ I think the whole "Manly" idea is a con, to be honest. I think it's ego-driven and a way for hustlers to sell their manly course to unconfident lonely guys. Alphas exist... in the wild, with pack animals and some solitary animals that live together. There will always be the Top Dog, and when cats live together there has to be a Top Cat. But, humans aren't pack animals, we're very community driven. Even since the caveman days. If someone is lacking in confidence they're never gonna be the macho man, no matter how many books they read, people need to be themselves and express themselves their own way, instead of following the latest trend or wishing they were someone else.
4./ No comment. Hahaha, lots of stuff, to be honest. I'm kind of worried, but, I hope they're a musician or if they at least hang out with that kind of crowd everything will be fine... I hope. As long as they have good friends around them in general I don't think there's much to worry about. Me and my mates were pretty mischievous, but, we never hurt anyone and there are plenty of fond, albeit foggy memories.
5./ Wow, I'm actually drawing a blank on this one. It should be the easiest haha. I don't know why, but, the scene from The Simpsons popped into my head when Homer thinks about the advice his dad gave him. "Homer, you're dumb as a mule and twice as ugly. If some stranger offers you a lift, I say take it!"
Okay, I have one, but, it needs some context. So, back in college I was trying to find a documentary filmmaker to interview, but, couldn't, I was going to fail my class because of it, everyone had theirs done bar me. So, I wrote a script and got a friend of mine to wear a shirt and tie and impersonate this fake person I made up, talking about some fake documentary he made. But, during the interview, he improvised some stuff and one thing always stuck with me. It's about filmmaking, but, I think could be used for advice in any field.
"If you're making films, it's improbable that you would ever make a masterpiece with your first one. The first, second, and third may be bad, but you need to do them to get to the fourth, fifth, and sixth. Because when you get there you'll notice that you're getting somewhere." This is true, with everything, never bank on the first attempt at something, just know that each step forward is a step in the right direction.
This is a long comment, but, they were very thought-provoking questions and a really great post! Sorry for the essay.
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No shit man, that's cool, hopefully ye start growing again and get some good gigs, best of luck with it.
Too right man, I don't know if you're a fan of Bad Manners, but we're supporting them at the end of November, in Belfast, Dublin and then in Monroes in Galway on the saturday! It's going to be sick!
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DUDE! I am blown away by this AMAZING comment! Thank you so much for taking the time to answer not one, but all five of my questions! I had such a great time reading your responses, I appreciate you sharing all that with me 😁 The part about electric six is so cool!!
I couldn't agree more on music therapy- I don't play an instrument but I like to (badly) sing 😂 My hubs plays the drums, and the 4yo has taken an interest in a keyboard we have in the basement... so maybe I'll have a band one day too lol!
Your answers to 2 and 3 really made me nod along, yep- homie is spiting some solid truths! I had almost included in question 2 "How do we support men in being vulnerable, without making them uncomfortable?" 😂 Man, it's funny but also, it's not, ya know?
I think a big message shines through in what you said- just create space for men to feel safe in. That's legit, because it's THEIR journey. Reminds me of a convo I was having yesterday, which in summary was about offering information and being there, without our ego butting in to change the interaction. Can apply to all sorts of human connections :)
It sounds like you don't buy into the BS of believing you have to be one thing or another to be "enough" of a man- hell yeah! I hope that becomes a trend in our lifetime. Just people being their damn selves!
I can promise you one thing about being a parent, your kid will do all sorts of things you could never imagine now. It will be magical and awesome, no matter what direction they gravitate towards. I'm betting you will get a musician like you're hoping though, I've never met a kid that didn't love music! Hubs is already teaching the 1yr drums 😂 found baby sized drum sticks somewhere- ugh my heart! haha
Your answer to 5- wow, that was a ride! So many gems there- your friends improv was SICK! It's so cool that you got it on film- could see it as a fun intro or cut on a future album lol
Thanks again for this epic comment, and I guess now I'll have to apologize for typing so much 😂 !PIZZA
Hmm for ninth grade.. I changed all my grades to B's every quarter for the entire year and didn't bother going, except for report card days. 😏
Needless to say my parental units were in shock when I didn't pass on to tenth grade. I was out partying and causing trouble most days. 😂 Hopefully my kid doesn't try that lmao.
Good tunes! The last one was killer, me likey.
Haha that's hilarious! Reminds me of a bit I did- changed my parent contact number to a friend's house phone- her parents were never home so it was perfect lol my dad was quite shocked when the school got ahold of him finally and informed him I'd missed over a 100 days of school that year and was being expelled for it😅 Fingers crossed that the things we learned early on give us hawk eyes lol
100 days lol.. parents be like: 😫
The young ones might give it a try, but we got the edge and experience lolz. 😄
I like the funky, minimalist music of Sleaford Mods, even though I find some of the lyrics difficult to comprehend through the thick accent. But a song that is essentially built around a drum-synth and an electronic bassline with overlaid spoken vocals is quite powerful in effect. Can't stop listening to it. 😆
💃😁 Saaaaame! They have a few that just get STUCK in my head! I'm so glad you dug their sound :)
Great to hear my Irish brother from another mother @killerwot getting a shout out here and I had not heard he was making a hive documentary, nice one, I look forward to seeing that when it's done.
Sleaford Mods - Mork n Mindy Ft. Billy Nomates --- Oh ya, this has a savage tempo and beat and lyrics, love it, nice one.
Great advise right here!
Idles Samaritans -- Woah.... That was something else, I never heard it before and listened twice to really take it in. Powerful stuff. Us men should be more in touch with our emotions, no doubt about it, thanks for sharing such a thought provoking song.
Nice bit of silliness to close there! Kind of funky though and my foot could not stop tapping!
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Nice beats and tunes here. And what a memory you had with your Dad. Indeed, crying is a human thing regardless of gender ;) I once saw my father cried and the experience had been really humbling...
Thank you for this beautiful comment @ifarmgirl ❤️ I appreciate you sharing your experience!
If you feel compelled to answer one of my five questions above, you can be in the running for a share of HBI! 😁 Just figured I'd mention the prize pool hehe !PIZZA
You're very welcome and thank you too :)
And many thanks for mentioning about the questions and I'd opt for #5. Best piece of advice ever received would be that from my old man who always reminded us when we were young to honor our words even to our own selves. It has become one of those values etched on the mind. Now I'm trying to think if I ever promised something that I haven't delivered (yet) hehe!
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That is FANTASTIC advice! Thank you 😁 I've got you entered now 💚 !PIZZA
Thank you too and have a fabulous day :)
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Thanks for the tunes...'and it's okay for men to cry!
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I'm glad you liked them 😁❤️ and Ab-so-freaking-lutely! I think so too, we're all human, and men receiving emotional support could really help the future!
Men who are given space for their feelings are better for it, it opens the door to emotional maturity. Women don't just have better mastery of feelings because of gender, it is also because we are given room to grow emotionally... I think about that a lot. The damage to society that is done by toxic masculinity hurting men, who go on to hurt others. hurt people hurt people and whatnot...
Thank you for your comment 😁!PIZZA
I've always wondered why some men are really bad!
Just can't wrap my head around that! Have they been bad from birth?
Hahaha!
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