My Dreem Weeding
Right from childhood I have been fantasizing about weddings, those days I have always imagined having it big, filled with goodies, excess food, people, and of course expensive clothes, and carrying my bride in an expensive car. I got that idea from movies. When I see an expensive wedding, I say this is it, I want mine to be like that too. I was too naive then, I didn't realize that a big wedding demands big money hehe.
But as I grew, a lot of things began to change about me, I left the realm of imagination to the realm of reality, and I realized that weddings don't have anything to add or take away from our marriage. It's just organized for people to witness our union and that is all. The real journey starts after the wedding.
I have heard many ladies say, I want my wedding to be the latest in town, if the man doesn't have money, he shouldn't even come my way. Are you for real? What will an expensive wedding add to your marriage? A lot of people are getting it wrong. Some men will say I won't get married until I make money. Money is important in marriage but it's not first of all about the money. If you are waiting to get rich first you may keep waiting till you get old.
Because of the desire for expensive marriage, a lot of people got themselves into debt almost destroying those marriages. A wedding is not for showing off, take it according to your pocket, Do what you can. It's not competition, you can still make it unique even with the little resources you have.
Back To Me
We all have how we imagined our weddings to be, for me, I want something very simple and unique. Weddings are usually on Saturdays in Nigeria. That Saturday, I will get dressed in my suit or native dress. Ideally, I would have loved to wear a native dress but I know most ladies won't consent to that. Depending on my lover's opinion, if she is okay with the native dress, that is what I will wear for my wedding, I don't really like suits. The last time I used one was in high school.
I will ensure I arrive at the church or court before everyone, my curiosity will definitely make me do that. We will have to wait for my bride, they always come late down here. when we are all set and the knot is tied, I and my bride will head straight home.
I wouldn't like anything like a reception, for gifts and food, while going out, ushers will be at the door distributing food and giving gifts out to people. Oh, I forgot to talk about cake, well our cake will be cut when we go out of the church, I wouldn't like any music we will cut the cake as soon as we are out and it will be distributed to those available, then we take all the pictures we want before we go home.
I don't want to keep anyone, it will be as brief as possible. If my wife insists on a party she can have one at home if she wishes, I just don't like that dancing something. People can come to our home, there would be a lot of food and drinks, they can come and let's dine together at home till midnight after the wedding.
Well, this is my opinion, I don't know how the lady I would marry wants hers to be, whatever the case may be, it takes agreement for something to stand. If she consents fine, if she doesn't fine.
Marriage is not about money and I also agree with it. Some people need to take loans also for marriage and it's very common but if someone has the capability then, I see nothing wrong in an expensive marriage. As you said we should arrange it according to our pocket.
In this case, I think it seems greedy motive but from a different perspective I don't see anything wrong because it's their choice and we are no one to give them suggestions. Besides It's a matter of financial security and why one lady marry a person who doesn't have a good amount of income?
hehe, I just tried to see it from a different perspective and shared the thought with you. What do you think about it?
LoL.. I agree with you mate, it's the issue of financial security nevertheless, sometimes our eyes should not just be focused on the money alone. And we should also consider the fact that if when doesn't have today, it doesn't mean that he wouldn't have tomorrow 😁😁
Thank God you said you need to discover it with future madam. Why wouldn't you want music on such a happy occasion. The no reception thing is cool but no music 😎😎, please our wife to be I hope you will not consent to this ooo😁😁😁
Hahaha, abi you want to volunteer to be the wife😁😁
Your wedding is going to be very simple, you are talking like someone that doesn't like stress😀, hopefully your future will accept it. It sounds lovely though.
#dreemerforlife
Awnn . Thanks dear, but this one you are sure she will accept it, I hope you're not the one😂😂🚴🚴
I didn't say I was sureoo😂, I said hopefully she would agree.
Hahaha.. you're rejecting my indirect proposal now right?
I am not saying anything 😌
Say something na my lady😁😁
Are you a Deeper Life Church Member? Your wedding will be stress free that is, if your woman agree to that, you are good to go.
#dreemerforlife
LoL.. I am not a deeper lifer ma. It's just that I don't want all those stress
Yes exactly. The marriage is important than the wedding.
I love how you analysed your points.
Your wedding is quite simple.
I enjoy reading. #dreemerforlife
Thanks so much for reading.. the pleasure is all mine🥰💕
The essence of a wedding is to celebrate the union. It should be about being intimate and memorable. Spending so much money isn't so bad, unless it's spending all of one's money and missing the point.
I like suits, actually. I can imagine wearing a crown on it and my woman with the most exquisite gown with a tiara on her head.
Awnnn.. your weeding is definitely going to be a hot one, please don't forget to invite me sir