I, too, detest being in the spotlight, though a part of me strangely longs for it. Right from my high school days I've been in the spotlight on several occasions. On each occasion I have shown nervousness, just like Smallsteps. Compliments are good but I think we should beware of over praising our kids, it can have a negative effect. However, Smallsteps has to get accustomed to being the centre of attention. Her life in the future might require that.
Yes. It is a strange one. I think it is the fear of failure, but the desire for success at the same time.