I've got to say I don't believe there is any "gold standard" to raising kids. The best we can do is to do the best we can based on what our beliefs are (and hopefully our beliefs aren't based on falsehoods and pseudoscience). Even all that isn't a guaranteed measure of success, especially since the idea of success can vary in so many ways. At the end of the day, every human is an individual and they will have to live their own lives.
A big issue in the world of the internet, disinformation and curated content based on desires. :)