That's sad to hear. My good friend had to deal with something like that and I will probably be the first to admit we didn't handle it the best when it happened. It all worked out in the end, but it was honestly a completely different situation. It's hard not to judge for sure. Things like that alter you and cause more trauma than you realize I think. I'm glad she sees a way through it.
A sad state of affairs for sure, quite hurtful to the lady and now the guy is feeling rather like he is a dastardly rogue, and so he should. It's not going well for him either.