Some people are rich and some aren’t. Some have a six-pack some don’t. Some people just have good luck in life and some life with bad luck. Some people are happy and some aren’t.
For many years I thought: “That’s just the way I am. And that is how they are.” Not noticing I have been the only one drawing the difference between “me” and “them”.
If “they” have something I aspire to accomplish, it is there for them as much as it is for me.
It is already there, just not mine, yet.
It is already there, I just have to find the way to get there, and stick to it.
For many years I found some uninspiring comfort in defining myself as “not that much into exercises”. My relationship to my body varied from, alright to not really appreciative.
All my Sports-Teachers underlined that statement further by successfully killing any inspiration for the subject. In fact if I learned anything it was to find ways to identify myself with my seeming miss-talent.
Somewhere on another hill in the midday head of the Turkish mountains on the rescue lane of a now not-so-busy main road I couldn’t help but laugh at the thought: “What would any of all these Sport-Teachers say if they could see me now?”. They barely saw me jogging one full round, that was if I even did show up to the lesson in the first place. And now I was cycling all the way from France to Istanbul and further.
Then I suddenly realised, I didn’t have to identify with being the lazy person. It was only my decision, one I could take on any day of my life: To be healthy in good shape.
There aren’t people who have a six pack and some that don’t. Everyone that has one, worked for it. For some it might have come easier for others harder, but for everyone, the only way to get there is drenched in sweat.
The same is true for any other subject. If it exists, the only reason something isn’t for me, is because I choose so. Because I am not willing to go there (which can of course be a legitimate reason).
That Chateau, it can be mine. This Lifestyle I can afford it. That job I can get it. This project I can accomplish it. Maybe the only question I need to ask myself is: “Am I willing to go that way, all the way? Do I want to figure out and deal with all the inconveniences, without loosing track on my desire?”
If I had to pick one lesson learned in my twenties that I find worth writing a book about that would be it:
It isn’t either you have or you haven’t.
It is either you do or you don’t.
Looking back at your 20s, what’s one lesson that stands out to you as particularly important?
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hm that is a good question!! I really admire my 20 year old self for going for my dreams without too much fear or even really considering the outcomes. It led me to so many adventures from biking through central America to deciding to jump off the career track and do my own thing. Now, in my early 30's I look back and wish that younger me had been more confident in my appearance & in social situations, I wasted so much energy feeling uncomfortable & out of place so ... the goal for my 30's is to work on those areas of life while being grateful for what 20's me did to take me to the place I am now.
I love that! Yes, I guess whatever our past self did or didn't do, let to the best possible outcome which is where we are today:) I am very glad you did follow your intuition on your adventures, they seem to have brought you to a lovely growing place!
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I loved reading your deep reflection. It's true, when we see the success of others we just look at what shines and want for ourselves. But behind that there is always a lot of effort that not all of us are willing to make. We make choices and make decisions at every moment. As you say, it is up to us to do what leads us to one or another destination.
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Thank you for your comment, very glad to read that my words resonated with you:)
Absolutely! It was a pleasure to me.
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I love this and couldn't agree more. I am still in my 20's and slowly realizing that;
That feels so liberating knowing that honestly we have "free will" and "options". I do recognize that judgement and fear of uncertainties can hold us back but really, if they present us with problem, then we just have to fix it.
I also recently re-read The 4 hours work week and one in particular is similar to your post,Apologize rather than asking for permission - basically highlighting the idea to just try and if make mistake, we can apologize.
Very liberating indeed, I completely agree! ...and also amazing when we already notice in our twenties, and have so much more time to actually apply all that free will:)
You remind me, I guess I should maybe re-read that book too... What are you currently reading?
I was thinking about you last night, wondering where you might be on your bicycle right now. I've been asking myself these same questions, about the work that must be put into the achievements I desire. It's never easy, but it's always rewarding. But it's work, for sure. It's time for me to stop procrastinating and roll up my sleeves.
I was still unaware of what I was learning in my twenties. In my thirties I started to see the trap I kept myself in. My forties are my favorite, and exhausting, with these endless opportunities to learn and grow that took me so long to see.
I also hated physical education as a child, but if they had only offered sports I was interested in, I would have been considered an athlete. Instead I was a dropout.
The bicycle is parked for a few more weeks until the weather picks up a bit more sunshine and warmth...:)
Hmmm exhausting indeed. And yet I love it, as you say. So I end up laughing at myself sometimes for just getting myself in more and more of these situation that I'll learn something from... In that sense I can relate to being in the favourite and most exhausting decade:))
Sounds like your fifties will be the cherry on the cake?
Hope you are doing well❤️
I thought of you too the other day, just after sunrise, at the top of the mountain there was a pitch black crow sitting in a baren tree and then flying passed me...:)
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Your words as well as your photographs are both beautiful and thought-provoking. Thank you for sharing :)
Thank you for that compliment:)
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