Am I wasting time and energy on unproductive or negative things and if so then why and what's the alternatives?
I've been betrayed and mistreated by someone I previously trusted and loved. It's very dreadful to uncover these kinds of deceptions. At times, I felt terribly upset and even depressed. However, living through these negative events could drain my energy and hinder my own growth. That's why I've decided to put myself first. I love myself first and foremost. I'm not going to trust easily, and I'm going to ignore any sweet talk that comes my way. I'll keep being on alert for red flags.
That's so sad to hear, I'm sorry you had to go through that.
I understand your reluctance to trust easily but I hope you're able to find the right person/people to trust to some degree and that you find happiness.
Thank you for your understanding and kind words. It's tough, but I believe that with time and healing, it'll be possible for me to find the right person to trust again.
But for the time being, I prefer to be alone. I'm not looking at all. I guess I'm traumatized. Building trust takes time, and I'm still in building mode. 😜
I know how difficult it can be to find the ability to trust people once that trust has been broken. Like you say, there's no rush and you'll know when the time is right, and also when it is not.