Let me see how I explain because I think you missed my point:
I myself cannot achieve this, that I am not affected by external things and attitudes of others. I am talking about the hypothetical case in which we could achieve this. That would be great. Because it would save us time and aggravation, to stay focused on what matters to us and who really matters to us.
And about being the center... it's the worst thing to want to be the center. Better to be on the outside, watching from the edge. These are the really smart people. They don't miss a single detail. So maybe that's why she looked at the edges.
Ah I see, sorry my mistake...Had you written it in Spanish I would have understood completely...although only if you wrote the word hola because that's the only work I know...but I'm fluent in saying it for sure! 😁
I agree with you, being unaffected by others is a strength, to be able to stand tall as ourselves and confident irrespective of whether others agree or not, or whether they seek to pull us down. That's such a powerful quality to possess.
On the centre of attention thing...I see people at these events trying to be, attempting to look like the smartest person in the room...but the thing is they gain the least from the situation; Listening and observing others is where the best will come; this is why I've honed my skills at getting people to talk and keep them talking...I learn more.
I did an edit to my last comment, I'm not sure if you saw it. 👆
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Well, maybe because we spend so much time at Hive. Hahaha... Nah, seriously. I think each person has the ability to realize with a few minutes of conversation whether or not they will connect with another person. You just need to be attentive to the details. And if the other person doesn't talk that much, maybe this is what motivates even more the curiosity of wanting to get to know them, don't you think? But there will still come a time when the detail or details will give the verdict.
I agree, it comes with experience too I suppose, reading the vibe and possible connection.