I'm taking a mental note, never to use 'fab' to describe how a woman looks. It's not worth the risk haha
Your post reminded me of the term "Living rent-free in someone's head". I agree with a lot of what you've said. Holding a grudge is giving the other person too much power over you. What's even worse is if you're holding a grudge and they don't even remember you or know who you are. They're moving forward, while you're stuck in the past.
People 'insulting' you with something that you want to do or enjoy doing is really funny. I don't even know how bagholder is even an insult. It's like telling an NBA player, you only play basketball for a living. People should learn that not everyone has the same likes and dislikes. What seems bad for them can actually be the ideal for others.