Happy anniversary! A great relief to hear that even after 35 years you didn't figure things out.
Don't take it otherwise but I sometimes get hard on my marriage thinking why after so many years it's not going smoothly. So hearing this from you makes sense to me rather than seeing the perfect couple online.
Yeah, not to say it is a shit dhow of a marriage. It just ain't perfect and we have our issues. I am just proud of the fact we haven't given up and still working on it a day at a time. We get better at it as we go.
Hoping that works for my marriage, too.
I’m sure you are doing fine. Just don’t give up and keep working at it is the only unsolicited advice I can give.