Aaaahhhh those videos sound so cute XD I wish I had a lot more videos from when mine were tiny but we didn't have a video camera and phone storage was pretty trash back then x_x
I do have a hundred million photos at least
One of my rules with my kids when they started drinking (whether they listen or not is another thing altogether) was do not ever imbibe so much that you can't walk unassisted and can't remember things afterwards.
The two that are old enough to drink have been pretty good.
And it is interesting, because when I look back I am still amazed, yet when she looks back, all she sees are the flaws and immaturity.
I'd be almost willing to bet that if you saw videos of little you, you would be thinking exactly the same thing even if it's somewhat tempered by enough context/experience ;D
without thinking about what our future self will know
I think that's more in the "things you don't know you don't know" than the "things you know you don't know" categories. And this is speaking as someone who spent a lot of the worst parts of the early days of parenthood very determinedly not wishing this bit was over because I academically with the first child and experientially with the second and third knew that this bit was a drop in the grand scheme.
whodathunk that getting into characters' heads would be a useful skill in real life XD
So then
A lot of people these days seem to be going all-in on their current feelings, without putting anything aside for their possible future feelings
makes a lot of sense as I know in my late teens-early 20s when I knew everything I was pretty certain I would never change :) And I know a lot of people my age think that they're set in their ways (okay in fairness some of them are and a lot of the older ones definitely are, but I don't know how much of it is set and how much of it is because they're told that they are).
It is funny how few understand this. Put yourself in silly situations, get silly results.
For sure. If I looked back to last week I would be pretty harsh on myself :D
I often wonder how different "skills" (professions or talents or whatever) affect parenting. Is an engineer a better parent on average than an artist, an artist better than a soldier? I know it is case by case, but it is interesting to consider, that is all.
Usually the hyperfocus is on how much fun you're having at the time and consequences be damned.
I still don't see how getting blind drunk is "fun" but being too far over a little bit tipsy annoys the hell out of me, guess I've been old since I hit the magic adult age XD
LoL but you know what same x_x
The differing backgrounds and skillsets would definitely lead to differing approaches and solutions to things that come up for most things. As you said it's case by case and probably more adaptability and being able to respond to what's going on at the time (which changes all the freaking time).
Basically I'm of the belief that if someone firmly believes that they know best and kids don't know what's good for them and all their kids have to be parented the exact same way for everything to be "fair" and you have to "start how you mean to continue" (or any combination thereof) they're going to have a bad time.