Without knowing it, it's harder to be the boss because you don't know what sticks until you press all the buttons, which, of course, is a lot of work.
The freedom of being self-employed is an illusion - because things have to be done and often, there is no one else to do them, but you, the owner.
Parents have done harm, but it doesn't mean it has to become a lifelong excuse. Too many just blame the parents as if they have no control over their own future.