Life's twists and turns often teach us the most important lessons, even if they're painful. It's how we respond to these challenges that defines us. Your friend seems to be on the right path, and it's nice to see how you're supporting both of them through this difficult time. Thank you for sharing this story, it’s a reminder of the strength we can find in ourselves and in our relationships. Yes, unfortunately, I've been in a similar situation, but it happened to me. A long time ago, my boyfriend at the time cheated on me with my best friend. It was really tough because I found out myself, they didn't tell me. It broke my heart since he was my first boyfriend that I was truly in love with. He didn’t beg for my forgiveness, but she did. I needed time to get my thoughts in order.I moved to another city for school, and there I met my true love. Because of him, I was able to forgive my friend. I could see in her eyes that she was really in love with him. After a year, I started talking to her again and we sorted things out. I didn't want to lose her, we had been friends since childhood. Looking back, I think it needed to happen, because it led me to meet my husband. He supports me in every way and takes such good care of me.
They are still together, and now all four of us are very good friends. I still think I dodged a bullet because my ex couldn't handle seeing someone have a seizure. He saw me have one once and almost vomited. So, everything happens for a reason...
I agree, and your first line, the twists and turns thing, my dad used to say that a lot. He's gone now but seeing it written always reminds me of his wisdom.
I'm sorry this happened to you, such a terrible feeling and something that certainly changes one from the inside out I think. As you have indicated, some things just happen and then other things happen because of the first things and that sometimes leads to something really great be it self-change and enlightenment, wisdom, greater emotional strength and even better relationships as you describe.
You are someone who (I think) has been through many things, difficult ones, as have I, and I think you're better for it including this scenario above.
Thanks for sharing something personal.
It's nice to know my words reminded you of your dad's wisdom, those memories must be very special.Yes, life can be rough, but it shapes us into who we are. I never understood the sayings "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" or "everything happens for a reason," but now I think there's some truth to them. Thanks for your kind words,they mean a lot to me.
Those two sayings need some experience to bring them to life as you say. You know, I've never thought of it that way before but that's exactly how it is right?
The saying what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, comes from Nietzsche ( I needed to google how to write his name, freaking hard to write) The original is in german, and it goes something like this: was mich nicht umbringt, macht mich stärker. I will never forget those words. I was in a philosophy class, and a girl mentioned she had too much to learn. The teacher responded with those words. We were all like, uh, okay, we will never expect sympathy in her class, she doesn't support this :) and other saying, though I'm not sure who came up with it, but it's true. How could it not be?
Isn't it spelled Neetshkee?
Ok, maybe not.
Philosophy class? You're a smarty pants? Now I feel a little inadequate because I'm a knucklehead. :)
No, no, no, I am a person who does not distinguish between the left side and the right side, so I'm not a smarty pants, never was ;) It was only one year, then I dropped out. But still, some stuff stayed in my head. Philosophy, psychology, and history, I have an interest in those things. Anything else that doesn't interest me, I need to go back to school.
Friedrich Nietzsche—pretty hard to write down the name, but apparently, I can pronounce it correctly, or so I've been told. Maybe they're lying. :)
I do a pretty good German accent, when speaking in English. Admittedly, it probably sounds a little like an SS interrogator, so I'm mindful of where I do it.
I reckon you'd pronounce Friedrich Nietzsche pretty well, probably it'd sound better from you than me with my Australian accent and all.