Pablo Milanés, Cuban singer-songwriter, now deceased, has a song in which he addresses this issue and, in one of its parts, he says:
Time goes by and we are getting older and love I don't reflect it like yesterday. In every conversation, every kiss, every hug you always impose a piece of reason.
To everything you say yes, to nothing I say no to be able to build the tremendous harmony that makes hearts old....
That is to say that in love all those qualities you mention are important, in which communication is essential and as a user told you to accept the criterion of the other party, even if you do not agree.
But routine, not taking care of the small details, not doing the things you used to like, not supporting her in a project or not being attentive to her life issues is something that ends the relationship.
I know that it is difficult to maintain a lasting relationship because I have been married for 28 years, but love is a process that is built with those ingredients that you mention, but that must be renewed permanently.
Happy Sunday. Cheers and best regards.
It's sort of like layers, the longer a couple is together the more that are created; the key is to making them the right layers and not toxic ones that can diminish the relationship.
Thanks for your comment, valuable indeed.