Good morning, @galenkp
This is a particular point that I've been thinking and reflecting about from about 5 year now. I'm 45 (couple of days away I added one more year in the number of turns around the Sun), and since from my 40´s I look back and saw that many things that I consider mine, or that I thought they are supposed to be close to me for my sake, turn out that it wasn't that way. You can say that I've became wiser very late in age. That is a fact that I don't deny, and that I happy that I've "started", no matter if in a elder stage of my short passage through this world/reality.
Nowadays, I look to things, situations, plans, live events in a more broad way. If something isn't mine, well maybe it supposed to never be mine, right? So many times I think that one situation, friendship is the best that could happen to me (in that particular time), but then, after it... It turns out that the situation (that is already part of the past), lead me to another point that was important to see/experience, ect
I like so much to think about this "theme", particularly when I'm on my Nature walks by myself, and trying to be more aware of the present (kind of a mindfulness mode... not perfect one (I know..))
Cheers!
45? You're a young spring chicken! (Kind of) 😉
The things that happen in our lives all teach us things, support who we are and who we will become, even lost relationships or situations; they help shape us. I like that point you made about one thing (that may have ended) leading to another that could equally valuable or be even better. Life rolls on until we die, it's best to move with it right?
Now Mr. Soon to be 45 year old...I hope you have a great day on your 45th and trust me, you're unlikely to feel all that different. 🙄