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RE: A World of Too

in Reflections2 years ago

The fact you are thinking about this means your are doing it as well as it can be done.

I think we are compelled to help our kids find something they will grow to love and develop a passion for. While that will happen, we will probably wonder if it is too late in the present. Now is always the best time.

What I have tried to do is simply enroll or involve them in different things in an effort to keep them busy but also trying new things. If I can somehow help them eliminate thresholds stopping them from wanting to try something new then they will ideally develop an adventurous spirit and be inspired to try new things.

One side lesson I have learned in this endeavour is that it is a gift to be able to enjoy something you are not very good at. We stove for achievement so much perhaps we can become frustrated with the mistakes and imperfect results that come with trying, failing and learning. When they find something the like so much and enjoy sucking at it, then they will have something they can develop a passion for and drive their own development with our help.

I hope that when I am done with this phase of parenting, I will have helped develop a generalist who has the basics already down and will have a head start on what will become a specialty.

If not, remember there is always grand kids where we can make up for the mistakes we made!

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I read once about a family of geniuses, but neither parent was genius level at anything. What they did was help their kids find what they were good at and supported them to grow with it.

If I can somehow help them eliminate thresholds stopping them from wanting to try something new then they will ideally develop an adventurous spirit and be inspired to try new things.

Wouldn't it be great to never lose the sese of adventure?

One side lesson I have learned in this endeavour is that it is a gift to be able to enjoy something you are not very good at.

This is what holds me back from singing publicly - total embarrassment. It is strange, in some respects I don't mind looking the fool - in others it is very difficult. I should think on that more and work out why.

I hope that when I am done with this phase of parenting, I will have helped develop a generalist who has the basics already down and will have a head start on what will become a specialty.

If they can learn anything, they get to pick and choose what and hopefully, pivot when needed in what I suspect is going to be a more volatile world.

If not, remember there is always grand kids where we can make up for the mistakes we made!

I think our job at that point is to just feed them sugary foods and send them home to sleep. :D

I have sung on stage with a band in front of hundreds of people but wouldn't sing in front of anyone til I was probably 40? I remember the first song I worked myself up to singing karaoke and almost simultaneously having a heart attack and stroke as my name was called. My whole being was trying to run from the room but I walked right up and sang Jeremy by Pearl Jam. I think it went okay and I have never stopped fighting the flight impulse ever since.

I would say this is the best way. Everyone is drunk, most are awful singers, and quite a few are both. You are SUPPOSED TO SUCK at karaoke so just do it!