I think this can be reconciled by considering what it takes to love God. If you truly follow Jesus you would obey the 10 Commandments and live according to His teachings.
If you can live according to His will, then you are naturally able to honor your family as you cannot do wrong to them. By being in God's grace, you will be a good husband, father, and so on.
If you fall short of grace, it is because you have wronged others.
By putting God as your top priority, you have no choice but to be godly towards those who you love and those who are just "meh" in order to merit God's grace.
The trickle down effect for sure!!