Lol, nice clickbait, man.
Identity is a psychological construct, and many people are influenced by how they think other people identify them. It's nice to decenter from this line of thinking because it helps you really see people as people, and gives you the confidence to be yourself unapologetically.
Side note: I'm just seeing the community you posted in for the first time. Hopped in to check it out and I'm not really understanding what it's about exactly. Interesting.
I reckon.. it's not always easy though. Sometimes we're what we they define is as. Since we mostly seek validation and use it as a yardstick to measure how adequate we are, it's always difficult to think we're at the center piece. In Africa, especially in Africa.
However, we just have to. Sometimes it's important we do.
Well I've been wondering too, then I had a conversation with someone here and well, decided to use it today.