I didn't know how if feels to lose someone dear.
I've always felt sorry for friends that lost their beloved, until it came to me, that was when I understood that the pain is weigh intense than I thought.
It was the first time someone left in my family, you can tell how traumatic it could be. Sighs.......
I remember vividly having conversations with him that were meant to ease my struggles.
I remember how he made a promise to drive down to the city where I live to help me get a comfortable apartment.
I remember the day he was to take off only to for me to receive a call that I come home.
I was extremely excited cos I will get to meet my beloved family.
unknown to me that I was going to receive the worst news I've ever received in my entire life.
I was depressed and kept asking questions that no one could give answers to.
I couldn't stay in the vicinity cos I was beginning to lose my mind. I began to think less of myself, treat people around me with so much anger, lost so much weight and became so to myself.
I remember his beautiful smiles, sense of humor and how gentle he act, the dreams he had for the future and the family, how he always look out for me, then I said.... he didn't deserve to go that early!😟
it's been three year and it still feels like yesterday.
I still wish I had more time with him here on earth and shared good moments that I could hold on to.
I wish I treated and also asked how he was doing cos I was always seeking for my own attention and getting my worries sorted out not asking what he was going through .
I miss him a lot and the pain can't be erased (though I wish I could)
ADVICE
Cherish every moment, make out time for people you love, give all the credit and celebrate them when you can because we don't know when they will take their last breath.
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I also lost my father 2 decades ago, having been ill for more than 5 years of his life, Around December of that year my father's sister came around to take him to her place to stay with him for awhile, i was elated and sad at the same time he was dressed in the same outfit as i was, as i watched Mama Franka drive the car out of our compound, tears rolled done my eyes then i heard a voice "that could be the last bye", i prayed over it not knowing of a truth it was the last bye.
On that fateful day there was so much celebration in my house, lots of cooking and music not knowing that my father died last night. I left the house to visit cousins you can imagine the pitiful looks on their face but i never thought or imagined the worst have happened until in the evening when i received the most shocking news of my life, my first love, Nnam, Ogbuefi Nwachinemelu has slept in the Lord.
I was shattered by the news but still could not believe it actually happened or would i rather say reality has not set in. Until the day of his burial, watching his lifeless body lie in that coffin reality dawned on me that he is gone forever. I cried and prayed for a miracle to happen as i watched his body being lowered down to the mother earth, i was left hopeless.
Death is really inescapable, the vacuum that loosing a loved one create cannot be filled. The lost of a loved one is a special pain or the greatest pain because it is a grief that nothing could have prepared you for, it changes you and the way you see things around you.
I know that time heals all wounds but i will never stop missing my father and this grief is never coming to an end soon.
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It is a pain that can never be erased in our memory. It lives with us forever.when i lost my mum it was like my world has ended because she was so dear to me and she will forever live in my heart.i will always cherish and lobe her for the rest of my life.
I agree with you. It's very difficult. The memories are always fresh....... Always!
Mate it is never a sweet story at all whenever you loss your beloved ones in fact that is when you will know their is nothing in this world, a pain like this is really a bitter experience
In fact it happen sometimes like a magic whereby you speak with someone and before you know the person as left infact it was so amazing the way people die this days it all look like a dream
Our payer is that we should never loss our loves once again is never a sweet experience when ever it happens, but the question is that we are all in debt to dead and we should all be ready to pay when and how to pay is what we don't really know..
However,we all need to take this world as a market that definetely we are going to leave one day, some for those that do as if their will never leave I believe it will shock them when it happened
@Abby....... It's baffles me. People go daily.
no signs to get your minds prepared.
They just go like they are sleeping, hoping they will wake up.
The death of a love is such a terrible feeling that lives we us forever. One that cannot be forgotten no matter how hard we try. I understood exactly how you felt when you heard the news of your brother death. Happened to be in a similar situation about a decade ago but in my case it was the death of my Father. I still remember that day so vividly. Infact I remember the run through that was and week following which was the week of wailing and all.
It initially felt like a dream dream has my mother called that our father stopped breathing after an illness. I initially thought it was just her overacting has she is usually fond of that. I wished and hoped that Thursday night that it was all a joke until the next when reality shook me till my marrow. Woke up that Friday morning with our House filled up to the brim with people I know and I don't know wailing and all. Immediately I knew it had actually happened. I was an unforgettable moment that I wished never happened at that time because I was still in high school.
After that day I always wished that maybe a miracle will happen till I finally witnessed the burial ceremony weeks later. This memories never leave. We all just got to live life the way it is has bad and terrible happen that we never envisage. The only hope is that when we bow out from earth we get to reunite with our loved ones. What a moment it would be. Till then the only to do is to grow in love, create/cherish every moment with family and the people has we don't know when all will be over. The good memories is what will keep us going
Time is always shorter than we think - we take each day for granted. But there are only so many days in our lives and in the lives of our loved ones. It only becomes apparent when they become cut short.
This sound more like a cure to regrets on the last day, actually we don't have the time to say all we wished for that didn't Happen but we will always smile knowing that our life was filled with love and we have no regrets..
I felt worse losing my mum and I still feel bad knowing she ain't here to see what her son has become..
May his soul rest on. He has fulfilled his days on earth. You can only be happy for him because he is in a better place, a place where he would not have to worry about a thing any longer according to the belief of we Christians
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