Do you have a link to these accusations? Were they made on the blockchain?
Good to see some changes, I guess? Very reactionary though which makes me wonder if there is some level of "am I really doing enough?" there. It seems like some reflecting was done and there was room for improvement, which is fair enough, we're all cruising along on this ride together, no one is perfect.
I will no longer ask friends for opinions about my attitudes, as I learned that this can sometimes backfire on me, but I will still be open to suggestions that are given to me.
You should reconsider your definition of friend. That's the issue there. You should alays be able to ask friends about their opinion without any worries, because they ultimately care for and want to see the best of you.