Hello,
Many of us wish to have great relationships or we are currently in one relationship or the other and we believe that for the relationship to work,that love is what is needed to make the relationship successful..
Well that is WRONG,yeah love is a great thing no doubt but love is not the only recipe needed to have a successful relationship or marriage or friendship....
Alot of things should be in place for a relationship to be great and successful,love is just one of the many recipes needed to build yoir relationship and make it successful...
I think these five things are also major things we should also look out for if we really want to have a successful relationship...
1...Respect
Yes respect is a very important in a relationship,you and your partner need to have mutual respect for each other,when you both treat each other respectfully it will make it easy to avoid any form of abuse in the relationship..
2....Understanding
You and your partner need to have great understanding for each other,you both need to be able to understand the weaknesses and strengths of each other and that will make you both to be able to manage every situations or problems that maybe experienced in the relationship...
3.....Trust
Trust is a very important factor in relationships,partners need to trust each other,when there is no trust in a relationship it will lead to chaos among the two lovers and they will start experiencing several conflicts in the relationship...
4....Tolerance
What is our ability to tolerate our partner??your partner is a human and as humans they are not perfect and they can make mistakes and they can offend you at times,they can also be annoying too at times but you need to be able to tolerate them same way they should be willing to tolerate you if they want the relationship to work...
5....Communication
Many relationships and marriages these days crumble because of some conflicts which could be prevented if there was enough communication among partners,partners need to always communicate with each other and talk about whatever challenges or conflicts that they are facing in the relationship...
I agree. Love is such an overused term too. Ask a variety of people and you will get a bunch of different definitions for it. It can be a broad "umbrella" term as well. One might say that all of the points you mentioned are aspects of love. All of those aspects are important to the success of a relationship.
And tolerance by another name is acceptance. How far do we allow our acceptance to reach with another person? How much are we even able to give ourselves? Can we give more acceptance than we give ourselves? I don't think so.
For that matter, can we respect someone else more than we are able to respect ourselves? I don't think so.
And so, I would propose adding another point to your list: self-love, using it in the broader, umbrella term, where we have first come to respect ourselves, trust ourselves, understand ourselves, accept ourselves, and listen to ourselves - deeply without bypassing our feelings.
Excellent post. Thank you for sharing your truth. 💗
@aprils hmm self-love,that is also another great topic that i would be talking about soon,i think self-love is underrated by so many people,to give out love genuinely you must first of all love yourself...
Exactly. First things...first.
I think usually true love comes with all these extra things you added, but true love is rare as hell so the lesser love that we can muster needs this work.🙂
Real love is truly rare,i agree..
The fuck man?🤷🏻♂️
Realest talk ever! Love is not just enough for a relationship to blossom, other necessary qualities are required as well and I like the way you put into details the qualities that are required.👍🏻
Thank you very much @driplord
Say no more, you are welcome. 👍🏻
Alright..thanks