There's a lot of truth in what you say, the way we make children fit in really has to be reconsidered but for sure this reconsideration would not find that we should let Children act according to their natural inclinations because some natural inclinations are dangerous to the individual and to society. Some would have to be curbed and new behaviours would have to be learnt. But when it comes to natural behaviours that are not dangerous, of course children should be let to be themselves, the current compulsion to fit in is excessive.