The Droplet – You Have to Or Else
OBEY OR ELSE
When was the first time you ever heard that command? I don’t remember exactly when I heard it first. I was a child though, and well under the age of ten. There were many things I did from fear of, "Or Else". I learned that’s how this world works. Do it, or else you’ll be punished. Punishment is executed in many forms.
I’ve done things I didn’t want to; in order avoid beatings and other fun things served up in my family during the years I grew up. Corporal punishment was a standardized favourite throughout society. At school, it was the same, to avoid being strapped or other lovely methods in routine use by teachers and principals. I would "obey" purely to avoid punishment.BETWEEN COLOURS
Somewhere in my teenage years, I remember making a promise to myself. I had heard, “While you’re under our roof, it’s our rules”, too many times. I don’t recall what occurred. It was nothing serious, but it was one too many times where I was reminded that I was not in control of my own life. I promised myself that once I moved out on my own, it would be my roof, my rules.
That happened. The move was one of necessity in terms of being close to work, so a very ordinary move. Finally I had my own space in which to live how I chose. I’ve always been the kind of person that could be labeled “willful”. I walk my own path, even when I appear to be doing otherwise. While growing up, it was simply "go along to get along". Survival.DROPLET HIGHWAY
No one ever explains to you when you’re a child, that this “Do it or else” thing is actually training in preparation for adulthood. I wonder how many realize they have been conditioned to blindly operate on auto-pilot without thinking. It was something I found out the hard way. I challenge the status quo. I ask questions. I mean, why can’t I ask, why can’t there be discussion and respect for each other? Does it have to be a situation of, “My way or the Highway?" People often become uncomfortable. Trigger reactive responses. Punishment for not abiding by “You have to Or Else”.THREAT SUGGESTION
Better do what you’re told, or no job. Bye-bye job. That’s happened a few times. It’s sad when a boss can’t justify letting you go from a job because you find their practices unethical and harmful. They resort to lies and manipulations to accomplish the goal. It’s all about them after all. Humans are disposable when they don’t do as they are told without question.
In relationships of all types, “You have to Or Else”, often flips up fast and furious. I’m thinking of how many times I’ve allowed myself to be held hostage in various kinds of relationships for this reason. When I was younger I paid some heavy prices to avoid the “Or Else”. That never worked out well for me. Not once. I let fear run me. I let myself believe that “I had to” whatever it was. I gave my power away to someone else. I literally gave them power over me by believing, “I have to”.
The last seven or so years, I’ve pretty much finished with “You have to Or Else”. There are two effective techniques I use to break that controlling nonsense. One is to encourage the person to move on, in such a manner that they think it’s their idea to do so. The other is that I simply walk away, disappearing without warning or explanation. I’m just gone like the wind.DROPLET PATH
It’s said that you should try to communicate with people, work things out, discuss. How are you going to do that with someone who is incapable of doing that? I do try though. I’ll give it my full effort. I’ll be open. I’ve learned to limit though, especially these days, when time is short. Some need severe limits. Others, it’s better to just be gone. Always, it’s best to rule oneself and never allow others to rule you.
This has been written for all the people who say to me, “I have to”. Why have you convinced yourself that you have to do whatever it is? Are the consequences worth it, or will you regret it? You can decide whatever you want. Don’t foolishly give your power away to another for any reason.
Another One Bites the DustGOLDEN LIGHT DROPS
All photos taken by Nine with a Pentax digital 35mm camera and 90mm Tamron macro lens.
Damn. I grew up in a Do it or else culture and all I gotta say is you gotta get outta there, or else.
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I think one would have to divorce the system completely to accomplish that. I'm seeing about my divorce papers now.
Thanks for stopping by and checking out my post. Glad you liked the pics, it was a steamy set up to photograph in. Thanks for leaving crazy @otherbrandt off on his own. 😜😂
Last I heard he's out wandering around the woods somewhere. Probably lost. Hopefully lost.
The system is a dick. Definitely divorce it if you can.
I don't think he'll stay lost for long.
I've been waiting for the right timing. I was given every reason just under two years ago. I kind of "snapped" so to speak. 😉
Sometimes all a person needs is a good snap to get refocused and find a better path to walk.
I was waiting for that "snap" in response to that planned thing for just over ten years. Absolutely refocusing and finding a whole different path that is well, very different. Got any outdoor laundry tips without soap?😉
Baking soda will do the trick. And it doubles as toothpaste :)
Great Photography.
Water on the windshield usually makes for a rough day at the office for me.
Or else...
Thank you @krazzytrukker! Oh yeah, definitely rough day at the office for you when it's raining. I'd be an epic fail without any rain.
I would've been either kindergarten or somewhere before I got yanked outta first grade—principal spanked me with a paddle. I told my mom about it and she went down there, completely lost her shit. I remember thinking how funny it was until she wouldn't stop and then it kinda got embarrassing.
They didn't hit me anymore.
Thank You sir... May I have another.
Come to think of it, I was "Hit" a lot as a child.
Hmmmm..?
Might be time for another Dr. Dee & Ays therapy session..?!?
Can we get a cup'0 Joe or what? How often you cruise the 40 through Knox?
You'll need to schedule your therapy session properly and a cup'o Joe (especially the pink kind) costs extra, right @krazzytrukker?
Times they be a changin'...
And Knoxville seems soooo faaaar awaaaayyyy...
My circle has become so small. (Operational zone)
I can stretch my arms out and nearly touch both sides. I hate going more than a couple Hundo Milos from homo.
Too much bad shit is happening, and much more on the way. I want to be able to make a suicide run for the Pookyville Cat Ranch when the communist fraudsters flip the switch.
Well since you out it that way. I have a clear moving picture now cap'n thank'ye.
Slow on the draw. I keep telling you crap is crappening and you keep crap challenging.
I spend enough time wasting time on things out of my control when I'm not thinking about it like oxygen.
I am a simple man...
I like pictures, moving or non moving.
They are usually worth a thousand words...
or more...
Speaking of Simple Man, we got pretty good seats to the Skynyrd concert next month.
You're so far away from your homo in Knoxville. I think you need to charge @dandays triple mileage plus a risk factor surcharge to cover that therapy session.
My Boy Dee has
walkedmountain biked thru Hell and has the scars to prove it.I respect that as I have my own hell ride history.
We both are all MAN, and secure enough about it, that we can joke around about ourselves and the others who are gender confused.
It is all in fun. Hey... We may someday break bread and have some laughs in person somewhere on this planet. Maybe even with you 9!!
I've seen. Those x-rays are burned on my brain. I'm surprised he's able to walk at all, quite frankly.
I'm not going to test the all man theory. I can see the proof in the pudding.
Stop teasing me with bread. I'm allergic to it, crave it and can just taste those buns. I'd have to serve up my fermented wheat free buckwheat bread for breaking bread. No, it does not taste like hummus at all.
If'n when I do. You will know about it...
Live at 5 on the Hive...
I need to know too. I definitely need to know.
Definitely time for another Dr. Dee & Ays therapy session. Right @dandays?
What the hell is he doing with that pencil?
Taking notes. Take Note.
Good one.
Score number two.
Happy Thursday to me!
You got paddled? Wood is more hurty, from my experience. Your mom really loved you, so obvious. Of course they wouldn't hit you after that. I can imagine the whole scene.
ROFLLLLLLLLLLlll when moms go from heroes to.. ok please stop.
hahahahahahahahahaha
Yay! 🤗
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