There is nothing a cup of coffee and a sweet treat can't fix. You might even figure out some lies while talking to people close to you and you stand it better because the sugar and coffee gave you some kind of consolation. Don't worry, no one has fooled me, nor have I lied to anyone. Maybe just myself. The moment when you realize it can be a real eye-opener, what you will do with the facts you got to know is another thing already. Maybe the best thing is just to keep calm and continue with your tasty coffee. 😁
We were in a coffee shop last Sunday. A friend of mine, my husband and I, after a walk we took. Oh, it seems it has become a tradition lately that we stop to recharge our batteries and later continue with the walk or go home. We also need some energy for that, of course. What perfect excuses I can find for a cup of coffee, right? 😂 This time I ordered a cappuccino; they served it in a tall glass, in layers. On the bottom, there was a layer of chocolate, then milk, coffee and whipped cream on top. Sprinkled with cinnamon... that was really tasty. 🤤
I also ordered a chocolate roll. It was normal, nothing special or anything out of this world, but it served me well to give me back some energy. I am writing all of this just to postpone the main thing I wanted to share with you to introduce into our environment the taste I had in my mouth when I realized I was kind of fooling myself. The bitterness of the truth seemed to be tempered with sweetness. 😁
We talked to our friend about many topics, mostly everyday stuff that we had during the week and we also touched on the topic of my trips to our old place where I still work. She asked why I hadn't started looking for a job in the place I live now, and it was not the first time she had asked it. (btw, not the only person either to make the same question). She has every right to ask that, I know she just wants me good. She is worried that I am driving home late in the evening as there are always risks on the road, that I lose my time and also money for the fuel. My typical answer is that I promised the school to continue going while they don't find another teacher and that I can't just leave them in the middle of the school year as it is also a great responsibility and emotional attachment, that I also still earn money by travelling all the way there and that the students love me and... I could continue for a while, as I did, but something inside me was telling me that it was not the whole truth. Maybe it is just a facade for my insecurity. My self-confidence that I could perfectly speak the language of the environment went to sleep a while ago, perhaps I did not consciously realize it but in that coffee shop I clearly heard that my thoughts were telling me that I would only find rejection and that is why I do not want to move from my false comfort. Thank goodness, my cappuccino was there to distract me from these thoughts. 😆
In some serious situations, it is actually advisable to turn everything into a joke. Not in all of them, of course, but these small superficial traumas and insecurities have found their way into additional laughter. My son successfully passed all his exams this semester, the grades are very mixed hahaha, but that doesn't matter, the important thing is that he passed all of them. He is happy, and so are we, and it seems he luckily didn't inherit my sensibility that everything has to be excellent. He got a high grade in English and while telling us that he sent us a screenshot of the examples of some mistakes that the students (of course, without naming anyone) made. The students even had the chance to vote for the funniest mistake so these are the results:
We laughed a lot at some examples and imagined how we would also make stupid mistakes and we surely do, whether in English, Spanish or in our two mother tongues. The thing is that many times we just literally translate some words or expressions in our mind from another language and it sounds ridiculous or incorrect. I admit that I have a problem with accents, (apart from many others that native English speakers surely notice in my posts) so to a word with a certain melody that would be written in my mother tongue in one way, I apply that rule in another language if I don't pay close attention, especially in Spanish. And who knows how many mistakes I wrote here today, better if we don't pay a lot of attention. 😂 It is said that the more languages you speak, the more advantages you have. However, it can also be a double-edged sword because after you know a few different languages, perhaps none of them is perfect anymore. Do you feel the same way?
Tomorrow is Sunday again. Maybe we will take a walk, have coffee and chit-chat in a coffee shop with our friend and who knows, maybe some new truths or lies will appear in my cup of coffee. 😅
Oh, yes! Not because I know many languages but because I'm unsure if I know my native language anymore.
Apart from the laughs I may cause, I'm glad I can at least make myself understood (in English). I'm "terribly" glad, haha.
I admire that you prefer to keep going to your old job, even if it means extra effort and expense because you promised and they need you. Of course, there can also be a fear (which I have) of change, and you have to gradually get used to the new reality you live in now.
Your cappuccino is more like a cake...liquid!
My walks are almost always linked to a cappuccino, and I'm glad you adopt this method, too. I like to get together with friends sometimes; otherwise, I only get together with my wife. The discussions are always enjoyable and interesting, as was your discussion. You've already made me hungry for coffee, thank you!
Haha, that is the thing with our native languages 😂 When I talk to my parents through a video call, many times I would like just to mix into my phrases words in Spanish or English (as I do when I speak with my husband but we understand each other hahaha) but my parents then can't understand that word. I admit I am ashamed sometimes 😅
I am terribly 😁 glad you use English at this level @bluemoon. And terribly glad you also understand my situation. I try to understand myself too hahaha, and let time for my decisions but I think I am leaving already a bit too much time to even try to get myself known in the new place. Fears are good in some situations but fears that block us from growing are not good. Well, at least I see that I am trying to kick myself out of my comfort zone 😁
A liquid cake 😂 That is a great description for that cappuccino!!
I admire those who can think in one language and speak in another, and I think it is not easy.
It is expected to have emotions and fears, but you already have an experience that helps. Of course, you do not have to stay in the same place until they find a replacement because they may not find one. I am sure you will do the right thing at the right time.
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Good night, @mipiano. The truth is that we all have insecurities, there are those who cover them up with a semblance of unshakable security. Other people don't and live with them to the surface. I won't say which is my case; in any case I don't make mistakes speaking English because I don't speak it. But what is certain, at least for me, is that with a good coffee and a good company we are more tolerant with ourselves.
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Thank you for your opinion, it indeed is like that, we all have some insecurities. What is the magical formula to cope with them...? Oh, no magical formula I suppose 😂 though as you say, a good company can help to be more tolerant - with everyone, others and ourselves. 😉
Greetings and a nice Sunday to you 🍀Good morning @enraizar
Good evening or good morning (I don't know), @mipiano.
Sorry for the delay in replying. In any case, this is a good opportunity to wish you a good start of the week. 🤗
life is more beautiful with friends, coffee and chocolate!!
I just need a dose of chocolate right now to compete my day ;:D
Hello there :)
It's nice to see you here 😊
That's food for thought. It never occurred to me, but it makes sense.
Seeing this makes me want to add whipped cream to my shopping list, just because... who doesn't love whipped cream, heh?
I can see that happening. My old boss in Jamaica was German. She lived in Jamaica for so long that she forgot how to speak it. She spoke English and the Jamaican Patois perfectly. I love the languages and I'm always good when I practice. However, I forget everything after a while. The interesting thing though, is when I start learning a new language my brain recalls previous languages that I thought I'd forgotten.😆
Hey Milly 😇
Thank you for your comment, in one moment I thought... maybe this post doesn't fit in the community. I am G¡glad it was not muted 😁 Thank you :))
Well, certain foods indeed have an influence on our mood, although in my case it was more like a writing part. I do notice a pattern in my food/mood relationship. When I am stressed or with anxiety, I can't eat, I remember I had some serious moments when I had no appetite to eat anything for some time. When I am calm and happy, I tend to eat much more 😆
Languages - it is true that when we learn a new language, we have already some accumulated, forgotten knowledge that wakes up and helps us to learn more quickly (or just messes up our mind 😂)
I hope you are having a great Sunday and tasty coffee, @millycf1976 😇
Europeans are so clever they all speak at least two languages, and I believe many 3 or even 4 (how many do you speak by way?). A lot of Brits can't even speak English properly 😄
I agree with your friend, and I think you can only use your excuse for a few more months !!!
That is true, Europeans tend to speak more languages, I guess as they/we mix easily with other people and cultures. I use four on a daily basis 😅 so you can imagine the mess in my head. Oh, I would need to be headless for some time and see what language would my mind choose by itself 🤣🤣
Thank you, I hope in a few months I can make an update on the topic and see if I made some changes and let the excuses apart! 😇
You find it hard to detach yourself from your students is the main reason, you are already fond of them and they are fond of you and also because a change of teacher would affect their performance. That cappuccino looks good and the sweet even better. Enjoy your Sunday @mipiano.🥰
Thank you, Sunday almost passed here when I arrived to respond to your comment, but I hope you still have a few hours of weekend to enjoy 😇
🤣🤣 I would have made more than half of those mistakes. 🤣🤣 Languages are a pain for me, blessed translators who make it easier to communicate.
I'm glad R has passed everything, the first period is usually the most difficult and he has overcome it. Excellent!!
Your comfort zone now is not comfortable at all, you know that... but I understand that it is difficult not to wait for the course to end. Whatever you do, it will be well decided. 😘
Indeed, you got my point perfectly, my comfort zone is not comfortable at all, but still, I am a coward to try to help myself in that matter. 🤦♀ But I do believe that in the end we always figure out what is best for us and act in that way, thank you for your encouragement @palomap3 😇
They are moments in which one realises things, it has happened to me and the insecurities too, don't feel bad, I share what happened to you .... the subject of English... in school they taught it to me by heart, I hated it and I think I have a trauma with it hahaha so it is fatal. But I speak Argentinian and I understand Andalusian hahaha and some Italian words, because my grandmother was Italian, but I prefer Spanish....
Enjoy the coffee with the sweet today!🤗
Argentinian, sound cool, and Andalusian - it was difficult for me to understand when we were in Malaga 😅
Thank you, we just bought some sweets and brought them home. I hope your Sunday was nice :))
I got used to Andalusian hahaha but at the beginning it was complicated hahaha the Argentinean spoke it well!
My Sunday.... museum, walk and carnival parade....4 hours walking, I don't have legs jjajaja
Little white lies are part of our armour against the world, necessary to sometimes get by, no one gets hurt. My old dad always taught me " To be a good liar you need a good memory"
Now that is a fact!
Like protection from a harsh reality? 😂
What your dad taught you actually makes sense haha.
Wow its so nice layered coffee I want it now but the coffee shop is too far but soon I will. I can’t keep laugh a little bit haha about fooling yourself bout a sweets . but its okay you deserved it since your not always used the sweety food.Because it so yummy match with an aromatic coffee then go hehe.Have a nice a day ahead and nice to see you around.
Now am dying to have a tatse of this cappuccino coffee even a cup of coffee fixes heart breaks, your son is pretty funny with the result 😂😂
That list was not his results from the exam actually, just a collection of funny mistakes in general