Nothing can be compared with the love we get from our family, family is everything, home is a place where you are accepted by friends and family and you have lots of time to relate well. Why should I think of sending my mother to a retirement home?
On this prompt, everyone has the right to their opinion and I believe the relationship you keep with your children determines who you will become in your old age, some mothers are too harsh to their children and grandchildren, and in this case, some people will love to suggest a retirement home for their parents not minding the expenses at all.
As a child we have a way of giving back to our parents in their old age, this people need all the love they can get in this world, we are now their companions and friends in their old age, we are their backbone and shoulder they need to lean on, there is no point in pushing them away while we can show love by taking care of them and shoeing them love around us.
How I wish my paternal grandparents were still alive, I would have suggested something like this for them, we are always running away from my paternal grandmother because she doesn't know how to pamper a child, and we prefer to spend all the holiday with our maternal parents, my grandmother is very harsh and a disciplinary at that, she doesn't care and everyone neglected her for her behavior, I wish she is still alive so that my parents can do the needful by sending her to the retirement home, I feel like when there is not enough love or strong bond between a mother and a child is when the issue of retirement home comes in.
Some mothers can be a pin on their children's necks when they are old, they always frustrate them and never give them the chance to show love to them, your relationship as a mother to your children or grandchildren depends on how they will relate with you when you are old, I can never allow my mother to spend the rest of her life in a retirement home.
I share a strong bond with my mother and I think I want her by my side, I want to take care of her, and I want her to be able to have access to me and share her thoughts with me, I want her to enjoy being with her family at all time, it is not necessarily we stay under the same roof, she has her own apartment and she should be free and travel to any of her children's house anytime she feels, I want her to have access to her grandchildren, she should be free with my children and create a unique bond with them.
I want my children to have a memory of their grandparents when they are no more not to distance them from each other, all my wishes will never allow me to create a gap or distance between my children and my mother likewise my siblings, none of them will buy the idea of taking our old parents to the retirement home.
This is my response to today's episode of hivelearners community prompt of #hl-w144e02 which the topic is tagged Retirement Homes Or With Family?
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Family love sure superseded any type of love we would get anywhere.
That creating of memory is very wonderful too, personally if I'm blessed to stay till old age, I won't even consider that idea at all even if I have the whole money in the world
Hello my girl, how are you?, wish fine! 😀
Now that I am 57 years old, I understand and know what it feels like to not have someone to take care of you, and to live with that fear of what will happen when I am not able to do things for myself, especially when I have been a such an independent man. My family pushed me aside and I had to take care of my mom and dad when they were older. With mom I cared for her with all the love in the world, and even with dad who was very cruel to me, I was humanitarian and took care of him as much as I could, until the same government intervened and forced me to put him in a care home, but I didn't want that.
I believe that older adults should have the right to decide where they want to spend their years, whether in a retirement institution or with their families, and that decision should be respected and understood. It seems to me that it is ideal and reasonable, don't you think?
Yes dear. Love is all that matters. But in case where it doesn't exist, then we need to take them to the retirement home to be taken care of.
Thanks for sharing
Family love is the best i can’t imagine taking my mom to retirement home she will never forgive me for that.