It is fascinating to understand that a parenting technique that works for Mr. A won't work for Mr. B, and the reason is that all children are unique in their own way, which is why parenting is a very important job that shapes every child's life. One of the aspects of parenting that fascinates me is the delicate balance between being actively involved in a child's life and allowing them the space to grow independently. It's a fine line to walk, ensuring that you are there to support and guide without being overly protective or intrusive.
In today's blog, we will discuss how important it is for a parent to have an active role in their child's life and the consequences of being overprotective. Join me as we explore the truth.
From an outsider's perspective, because I am not a parent yet but I have helped groom some kids as they grow. Now, I believe that open communication is key to navigating this balance. Having a friendly relationship with your child is very important because it is only then they will be able to open up about whatever is going on in their life outside the boundary of their parents knowledge.
By allowing honest and transparent conversations with children without being judgmental, parents can better understand their needs and boundaries. Doing this can help create a healthy environment where children feel supported and empowered to make their own choices, while also knowing that their parents are there for guidance when needed.
I have an aunt who is very close with her 13-year-old daughter; they talk about everything. I mean everything, which in turn makes me very careful around her so she doesn't know my business because if she does, her mom already knows too. I love the relationship between my cousin and her mom. They talk about having a boyfriend and everything. Her mom is very supportive, and this way it is very easy for her to correct her daughter when she starts acting up.
Setting boundaries and providing guidance are important aspects of parenting, even for those of us who are not parents ourselves. By offering a listening ear, providing advice when asked, and respecting a child's autonomy, parents can strike a balance between being present and giving space.
One thing I don't like and am always scared of is overprotective parents. Parents who believe they have to make every choice for their kids and doing so give the children the trust to make certain decisions for themselves. Children like this tend to misbehave once they have a grasp at freedom away from their parent.
I know of a girl back in the day; she was a beautiful lady with a brother but her parents never allowed her to go out or make friends. Sometimes, her mom follows her to school and when she's back, she's not allowed to go out or have friends over. There was a particular time we were chatting and she told me how bored she was. I offered to pay her a visit, which she was so happy about. I went over to her place after telling her I was coming and she said she was home. I got there and I met her dad outside.
"Good afternoon, sir, I am here to see Timi," I said and her dad was like, "She is not at home."
I was shocked because we were chatting and she said she was home. "Sir, she told me she's at home," then her dad frowned at me and said with a harsh voice, "I said she's not at home."
I had to make my way back home, and before getting home, I got a text from her saying, "Where are you? Your house is not far away."
I told her what happened and she felt very bad because I told her I would never come over again. I probably shouldn't have said that.
She got into the university and became wayward. She never came home for break and when she does, she doesn't even stay long. Long story short, she got pregnant, and I never saw or heard about her again.
In conclusion, there are many people who have turned wayward because of how strict their parents were. I believe the approach of being too strict on children is a poor approach, which will only harden the child and turn them into what they don't want to be.
Thanks for reading. My name is Fashtioluwa, Hive favorite Alien. If you have more to add to what I shared, you are welcome.
I love a mother daughter relationship like this 🥹. Most parents fail to understand that their children needs to be their Friend first before they can be able to listen to them.
I'm sure you'll rock as a dad
hehehe. The last sentence did put a smile on my face. Thanks.
Yeah, the reason why kids listen to one another is because they find friends in each other. If the parents can create that atmosphere with their children, trust me, the children will rely on their parents for any advice that they need.
Thanks for this amazing contribution.
Exactly!
You're welcome the only man that came from Mars to earth lol
You are very correct, open communication is key to parenting, and also parents needs to learn how to listen to their children. Not every time children will listen to their parent, the other part should be considered as well.
Yeah, parent need to learn to listen too because they can also learn one or two from their kids.
This is a beautiful contribution.
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This is a very sad story about Timi, being over protective can lead many kids to flow in diverse form of lifestyle which may be so detrimental to them at a later age just as in the case of Timi I know the parents would have been in great regrets by now.
Yeah
They do regret it
I always tell parent to allow their kids be free with them and allow their kids bring their friends home
That way you’ll be able to know which and what might go wrong and correct it on timr