Most times, a lot of things I write on here are stuff happening in my life but I write from a third person's perspective, mostly for two reasons, the first being privacy and the second being that I really want to hear people's honest opinion on whatever that thing is...and them not knowing it's about me would most likely make them express themselves a lot more freely.
Well today, I won't be doing any of that, as I would be hitting the nail on the head, on my head, while talking about today's topic.
You see, fear is a very dangerous and powerful thing, unfortunately most of us don't know that until we find ourselves in a situation where we're scared and then we realize just how powerful it can be.
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For the past couple of months, I've given myself and the people around me countless reasons why I've refused to move on to the next phase of my life. One of those many excuses being that I don't want to leave my friends behind and all that.
And while I may have genuinely thought that was the truth, the truth of the entire thing was that I was afraid, afraid to start a new phase of my life where it will be just me and no one from my old life., afraid to start all over.
Many of us have this particular fear in us but we refuse to acknowledge it until something happens in our lives (like it did in mine today) and we just realize that being afraid to start afresh (especially when we have to), would only bring nothing good but insults and disrespects.
A good example of what I'm trying to say is imagine you remaining at that job that you hate so much due to how your co-workers treat you, not because the pay is great, but because you're scared of going to a new job, a new environment where everything is new to you and you have to literally start from scratch to learn the ropes and be the newbie there.
Or imagine remaining in that toxic relationship where you're constantly being disrespected just because you've been with them for so long and you don't want to go through the whole process of meeting someone new, going through the talk stage and learning about the kind of person they are.
What that fear would do is force you to tolerate whatever bullshit that comes your way and most times we end up paying a heavy price for it dearly.
Personally, I've come to identify that fear in me and have decided that enough is enough. I have tolerated more than I should have and that unfortunately, cost me something very important to me today but strangely, I didn't feel as hurt as I thought I would because deep down, I knew that was a little price to pay for my stupidity of choosing to remain behind when I should have moved on a long time ago.
Anyways, don't be like me. The moment the signs are there, move up and don't try to convince yourself to stay back by reminiscing about the good old days because there will always be better days ahead.
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I think you are resistant when it comes to change and for many people, it's not surprising but I think you need to be brave because you need to move forward today, tomorrow, or later as you can't stuck in the current position. So it's better to be brave today and overcome fear.
I one hundred percent agree with you.. I'm scared of change, especially when things are not so bad right now....although I know it definitely can get better, if only I do decide to move.
Hehehe, stop being afraid of moving on prayzz. Life can never be so pleasant but we got to adapt with however things unfold. You just have to move on despite the uncertainties around and it starts with your mindset. Just make up ur mind, determine that you are unto next phase of your life and nothing should stop u. Fear can make someone to be limited and I know you wouldn't want that, would you?
So I wish you all the best as you move to the next phase of your life endeavors
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Thanks Nkem.. Hopefully I get to be brave and do move forward.. The good news about this whole thing is that I've taken a step forward, which is admitting that I have a problem.. Now all I have to do is work towards solving it.
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