Nothing excites me like seeing a nursing mother and her baby, I just can’t help but applaud them for their bravery and hard work especially first-time Moms who despite their lack of experience are still able to take up the role of motherhood, they aren’t fully trained for this new role they assume, no matter the books they read, research’s and pieces of advice they get they just have to learn more on the job because they’d be new cases, new methods, and options they’d have to explore while learning on the job.
When I see a first-time Mom, I don’t hesitate to applaud and appreciate them because these past months I’ve been opportune to take a peek into what their lives look like behind the scenes, and without mincing words these women are the real MVPs, figuring things out, being overwhelmed yet putting up a strong front is something to be applauded.
A very good friend of mine gave birth a few months ago and prior to when she did I had written her a very beautiful letter
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This my friend happens to be one of the strongest women that I know. I watched her rock and slay while pregnant to the point that she made pregnancy look so easy. My friend was so strong that she didn’t stop working while she was pregnant as a matter of fact she was in the office a few hours before she gave birth.
Watching her pregnancy journey I was so proud of her and silently wished I could have so much energy like her when I get pregnant.
After she gave birth she started her motherhood journey with so much enthusiasm that it felt like nothing to her but with time we saw her begin to struggle. She was overwhelmed with everything just like every woman after childbirth.
The saddest thing about motherhood is that there are no past questions, nothing that aptly describes how you feel or what you should do.
There were days when my friend would call and start sobbing and other days she felt numb. Now all of these started when her mum left her house after staying with her for three months after birth.
Over here there’s something called Omugwo, it’s the period of time when a woman’s mother, mother-in-law, or any older female relative helps to take care of the mother and her newborn baby for a period of three months before the mother of the child is able to bathe the child properly and tend to the child without needing assistance. Over here babies are bathed differently, so it’s always tasking.
After my friend's mother left she felt so lonely and overwhelmed.
For the longest time, I have read about Postpartum Depression only on the internet, in novels and poems but for the first time, I witnessed it.
There were times when she’d burst into tears because her baby was crying and she didn’t know what was making the baby cry and some other times when she’d have to stay up all night tending to her baby.
This new role she assumes feels so big for her that she sometimes can’t wrap her head around it and it makes her feel bad for not being able to handle everything.
This is the same fate for most first-time Moms, being clueless and emotionally drained yet you just have to find a type of coping mechanism to help with your emotions and everything in between.
For a lot of first-time Moms, the journey seems so difficult but the good thing is they still want to go on that journey again and again and the more they go on that journey the better prepared they are.
To every first-time Mom out there, the ride might not be a jolly one at the moment but trust the process as it would be rewarding in the future.
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Oh, dear Ibb, my eyes are teary reading this; when I delivered my baby, my mom was here for two months, and those two months were bliss; I was able to begin my healing and take care of myself.
If my baby cried at night, she would attend to him and ask me to feed him only when he was hungry.
But after those two months, when she left, it was a disaster for a while; I would break down and cry many times because I was drained, and I felt more vulnerable than I had ever felt in my entire life.
It was scary and challenging to lose who I was and accept my new self, but what kept me going was the joy and happiness I felt when I looked at my baby.
It's been over two years, and I'm just starting to feel like my real self again.
Motherhood is not for the faint-hearted, my dear. May God continue to strengthen all Mothers out there.
My prayers and best wishes are with your friend. She sounds like a strong woman, and she will pull through this.
Help me to tell her that she is not alone and that no matter how hard it gets, she will be fine in the end.
Thank you❣️❣️ a million times for telling our story, a story I don't even know how to tell yet.
Oh Funshee I can’t even begin to imagine what you went through back then but one thing I am grateful for is how strong you’ve become over time and that's great my darling.
Thank you so much for your heartwarming words as this is a confirmation that it gets better eventually.
I’m sending you my love and the biggest virtual hug 🤗🤗you’ve ever received pending when I give you a real one.
You’re amazing Funshee and it’s an honor to know you🥰🥰
Ps: You’ve broken the record of the author with the longest comment on my post, I’ll prepare your plaque later no worry😂
You are just so amazing to be able to express what we feel even though you haven't experienced it yourself. We all are lucky to know you dear.
Thank you❣️🙏🥰 I'm beginning to count the number of hugs 🤗 I will receive when this happens.
Oops 😬 just when I thought she was going to overlook that 🤣 !LUV
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You tell the story like you could actually feel how first time moms feel exactly, this is so beautiful and emotional to read.
Now, I'm very sure I'm not ready to go the motherhood journey even if I begin one, it's not one to prepared enough for 🥲
Your friend is doing amazing well already, she will pull through and be happy with her child and other kids to come.
I feel the same way my darling, for the longest time the only person I’ve known how to take care of is myself and when that dynamics eventually changes I do not know how I’d be able to handle everything but if there’s one thing I am sure of is that it gets better every day so let’s only hope for the best and not the worst😃
Hahaha yeah, it gets better and better.
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You say it so well that I feel safe going on that journey sometime in the future
That's the spirit my darling🥰🥰
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