Trust Is like an eraser, the more you give it out freely without process to note if the person is worth it, the more it reduces, being brutally honest is the truth but we know humans don't like the truth, we appreciate it more if sugarcoated lies are told to us which is why some say it with ease, they believe that's what you want to hear. Just like this part,
Trust and honesty fit together like coffee and cookies and I mentioned above brutal honesty. Being honest helps build the trust of course and lying destroys it, but is there a time for both? Do truth and lies fit together like honesty and trust? I think they do.
Though sometimes lying(white lie) is said to make another feel less pain as long as they are bits of truth attached to them as you've cited above.
I have been told I don't trust people, not as I do not, but the process it takes is longer than expected most time, and if it finally happens, I am careful of the information I divulge.
Sugar-coated lies seem to be rather prevalent don't they? This is why I don't watch or listen to news services, it's all lies and propaganda.
Taking time to gather information and understanding before placing trust isn't a bad thing at all, it's smart actually. It mitigates the risks involved with placing trust and may mean one averts a possibly bad situation. I'd say you're doing the right thing.
Propaganda it is..but most see my actions as being dramatic which I take no offense to and do as I please anyways.
The question I have is, how do we accomplish that? Gathering information I mean. With my mom, it was easy because we live together and every single day (till today) she proves herself. (I shouldn't even be distrusting the womn but I did. I honestly didn't trust my mother🤦)
Now, for me who's... well I like a life of seclusion. How do I actually know? (Stupid question? Maybe. But I can't help it).
We gather information in many ways. Direct experience, observation from afar, word of mouth and so on. All of those things combine and we begin to form a perception. Intuition plays a role also, women are good at that one. They all combine to give us the information we act upon.
From there we need to apply honesty, make decisions based on the information and the thoughts, feelings and emotions we feel because of them. Sometimes we look at the whole thing and decide against it, other times we convince ourselves to move forward...We never really know what might come until we experience a little more I guess though. I think one of the most important elements is not to be too hard on oneself when we get it wrong. We need to understand that we made the best decision we could based on the information to hand at the time. Something like that anyway.
As humans we're really good at deception I guess, and especially good at deceiving ourselves.
I'll bear this in mind, arigatto🙂
Dōitashimashite.
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