Yesterday I had cause to contemplate distance; the distance between people specifically. In my ruminations I came to the conclusion that distance between people is a very strange thing indeed; we can be far apart from a loved one but feel close to them, or be close to them and feel so very far apart.
That's the nature of our emotional thoughts; they can cross great divides, or create them, both emotional and physical.
I decided that no matter the physical closeness or distance we may share with another person there can be, and often are, boundless emotional distances. I think those distances can be used to draw the other closer though; the distance can be an opportunity.
"Seeing" a loved one from a distance allows the observer the opportunity to see them more clearly, or maybe I should say, allows one to see the other person in their entirety and to understand the emotions and feelings the distance exacerbates.
The phrase about physical distance, absence makes the heart grow fonder, exists for very good reason...But what about emotional distance, or both combined?
Loving a person that is emotionally or physically absent can be torturous, but I see it also a chance at discovery should both parties be open to it. There's ways to work around physical distance with the technology that exists today, and the emotional also, but with the latter we have to want to do so, to work at it, remember the reasons love exists in the first place, and hold it above all else that the attitudes and actions required to span that emotional distance are possible. That's a great opportunity isn't it?
There's nothing quite like the closeness that can exist between two human beings, love is a powerful force, and I believe that feeling is worth fighting for no matter how difficult the battles may be.
I believe physical or emotional distance between two people is an opportunity to learn and understand the other in new ways and more deeply; necessity forces change required to connect more effectively and span the gap. If people want it passionately enough the distance will diminish little by little and the emotional bond and the strength of love, respect and care, will grow.
Design and create your ideal life, don't live it by default - Tomorrow isn't promised so be humble and kind
The image is mine - Otago Peninsula, New Zealand.
TRUE.
This post is like an eye-opener and also a reflection on me. My brother passed a week ago and it leaves pain that is new to me. It's torturous indeed knowing that no matter how sad I am nothing changes. Even so, it gives knowledge for a new understanding as well as how life works and how it should be. Thanks for this.
I am sorry to hear of your loss, it's devastating indeed.
I never really know what to say, only that your brother is no longer where he once was, he's everywhere you go as you carry him in your heart, thoughts and memories.
Small consolation at this early stage, but trust me, it will make sense later.
Worth to read.
"remember the reasons love exists in the first place, and hold it above all else" I like this line.
Reading this while drinking coffee.
Thank you and I hope you enjoy your coffee. 😊
I enjoyed it and because of your post I am thinking about commitment and marriage.
Then I read this line on a different post on Facebook just now.
"Because when you trust amidst uncertainty, when you forgive amidst the pain, when you accept amidst the desire to want more, that is love. "
I agree with that statement; love can conquer many things, althought it's important to retain and apply a lot of self understanding and self respect along the way. Love is *two whole people coming together, not two halves. 😊
I felt emotional and inspired at the same time. While reading, I realized how come they are near, but feelings are so far, and likewise. It hurts when you realize that you reached the point where the distance between you and your loved ones is growing each day even if y'all are living under the same roof.
Somewhat it could teach us the root cause of why we are distant, and how we can address it. Such a great motivational blog sir!
Thanks for your nice words and aim pleased to hear my words have caused you to think about yourself and those around you differently. As humans we all have distance between ourselves and others, just how far that distance is, is up to us.
Beautiful, yes, finding the balance between closeness and distance, allows us to see the other, ourselves, the relationship and not to take the other for granted, it allows us the space to grow, not to suffocate, to be objective and make decisions from the heart, it is a beautiful way to take care of ourselves (including the other), thank you for sharing.
Indeed, and that's a nice way to put it; better than I said it anyway.
Humans have great capacity for destruction, but conversely, we can create as well and love is just that, a creation or, what we wish to create. I think it's worth it right?
Yes! It is worth the joy, the pleasure and the courage to create¡!
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Truly said 👍
It's said that distance makes the heart grow fonder and that's something I have found to be true in most cases. You can be sitting close to a loved one and you might not even cherish that moment but spend a few months away from them and you will start missing those same moments. "We never know the value of something until it's lost"
Yes, I actually say this in the text contained in this post.
This opportunity has become good practice for me and my wife. She's currently about 200 kilometers away, getting her MBA done, while I'm here in the capital, working and living "solo".
It was a tough few months at the beginning, but now we've gotten used to it. We visit one another every now and then, things are going quite alright actually.
A mindshift is often required and for those able to do so the situation can be made to work. It seems you're doing it. I hope it's not for too much longer and you can get back together in the same place once again. 😊
We're doing alright, it's been just over a year so far, got absolutely no complaints.
And yes, just about 2 years more I guess, then we'll be together again.
Hopefully we both will adapt according to the changes, and be tolerant enough for that long. 🥃
A year is a good effort. It's 35 for me.
The ability to adapt, be open and honest, understanding and respectful is important.
That's a LONG time, but I can see that you're tackling it well. It surely has taken a lot of effort to have come this far.
Hopefully, the wait will soon be over. 🙏♥️
YES SIRRR, that's all that matters in a relationship, in any relationship. 🥃