I think it's really sincere to talk to yourself on this issue. Otherwise, you may find that you've been fooling yourself half your life. This is true both when you live in a small house and in a big one. It can be uncomfortable in both cases... It would seem that what could be simpler than being sincere with yourself? However, the pressure from all sides is so great (you described some examples) that sometimes it is not clear and not sure what you really want...
But reading the stories of rich people or just successful people, I find their main step is accepting yourself after having this conversation with yourself. They may be disgusting people, but they did it and accepted it).
Very long and even more confusing maybe, but that's how I feel right now....
Rich or poor doesn't matter much - but one advantage rich have, is more opportunity to do more of the things they choose to do, not because they have to do it. It isn't just about being able to buy stuff.
Undeniable!