I was chatting with one of my friends today, and he shared a big secret with me about why he doesn't take alcohol. It was simply because of his brother, He has a brother who doesn't always know when to stop taking alcohol, and for this, his brother has disgraced the family in so many places to the extent he also had to make a promise to himself that he would never taste alcohol again and is keeping the promise to date. We're all like this, We make promises to ourselves simply because we don't want to end up like somebody we know.
At times, we make a promise to abstain from certain activities because someone close to us advises us against them. We may give our word to family members or parents not to engage in activities such as smoking or drinking. It is easier to keep such promises when the person giving advice is not engaged in the same activities. However, it becomes challenging when the advisor is indulging in the same behavior. This makes it hard to adhere to their counsel, even though we know it is for our own good.
It is hard to explain to people you are not perfect and you can make the same mistake you advised against.
One thing that most people do not understand is that so many people who are advising you are not perfect, They are also human beings, and they can make the same mistake that they are advising you against but does that them wrong? Does this give us any reason to go against their advice, or does it show us why we should not go against it or stay away from it? The simple truth is that many people who make principles don't always follow them because the principles are very difficult to follow.
Not every follower has a simple understanding, and not every follower can think critically, and that is why if you want to be a leader in the future, you can be the reason why people swear with their lives not to do something when you lead them with an example because you're making it easy for them, even when they want to go against the principle when they remember you they will stop, but immediately you start doing what you advise against you have given people you are advising one way to justify their stupidity.
Sometimes it is better to let people see your mistake and the consequences
When we advise others, it's important to be honest and transparent about our own experiences. This way, we can help them avoid the same mistakes we have made in the past or might make in the future. It's crucial to show the consequences of our actions, as they can be quite daunting and overwhelming. For instance, a father who has used drugs can advise his son not to do the same, but he should also show him the negative impact it's had on his own life. This can be a powerful deterrent for many people.
My friend chose not to be like his brother just because he understood the consequences of all his actions. Sometimes, when you make people understand the consequences of their actions and what they are about to do, it makes them scared. I let them simply understand that they're going on the right path, even when they end up seeing you not following the principle that you make. It wouldn't break their heart much because they understand the consequences, and they might also advise you to stop because they also understand in the end course of what you are doing.
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This is typical someone like me ,apart from restraining from alcohol I also have many brothers that I have Vowed that I don’t want to end up like this ,not only in alcohol aspect many ways ,talk of womanizer and mismanagement of funds ,the truth is their way of learning from other people experience ,sometime in life we don’t have to go through something regret it and later learn from the experience,we Might learn from other people mistake also
I agree with you, we can decide not to be like somebody in many aspects. It is also essential because it makes us aware of things around us and decides against it. I am also one of those who use this ideology just because I understand the consequences.
I don't drink much alcohol much but I don't know if I would avoid all alcohol. Although, I would say that is good for him financially and our life experiences make up a part of our own character. I hope he is able to overcome it but I honestly think that it isn't a bad thing to avoid alcohol.
It's always important to remember that our role models are just humans and a prone to making mistakes. I think when it's clear about the consequences of engaging in a particular behavior, then we're more likely to abstain from it even if our role model slips up.