2/ 🧵I never felt slighted despite the chores assigned to our family members. Still, there was a psychological cost to be paid for our misplaced kindness. Most of our gestures of kindness came back with ingratitude and envy. This made us hold each other to a higher level regarding respect. That higher standard started to influence every tiny action we performed for each other and reflected shame in disguise. It wasn't comforting to me as a youngster. Almost whatever I did for myself resulted in comments like, "Think about somebody else except yourself for a modification." I thus behaved. Considering other people and placing them first developed into a very harmful habit. Not because there is anything wrong with being unselfish; instead, I usually neglected to treat myself as well as I was trying to treat others.
3/ 🧵Shame promotes compulsive behavior. It does not appear like this while you are under its spell, yet this is reality. One such example is Pet Rescue folks. Over the years, I have crossed numerous. Some are likely suggesting those who donate their time and resources to put unwanted animals into natural sanctuaries. Others have convinced themselves that no one can look after abandoned pets as they can. This is the reason they are overflowing their houses with unwelcome creatures. Without the means or knowledge to care for these species, they end up causing much more damage after that great. Every year, people's houses or residential properties reveal neglected animals. Though many are deprived and many are already dead, the people in charge of these temporary shelters gladly appear in court and declare their "much better dead after that abused" point of view towards animals.
4/ 🧵You may enjoy both on your own and others typically as soon as you learn to ignore shame as a motivation for helping others. Genuine appreciation lies midway between what's best for you and what helps someone else. You have to learn not to go all the way to either side. Instead, respect those who routinely support you. When you can return and provide that assistance, do it with resolve. Those with a strong awareness of facts will successfully detect and handle that interaction.
2/ 🧵I never felt slighted despite the chores assigned to our family members. Still, there was a psychological cost to be paid for our misplaced kindness. Most of our gestures of kindness came back with ingratitude and envy. This made us hold each other to a higher level regarding respect. That higher standard started to influence every tiny action we performed for each other and reflected shame in disguise. It wasn't comforting to me as a youngster. Almost whatever I did for myself resulted in comments like, "Think about somebody else except yourself for a modification." I thus behaved. Considering other people and placing them first developed into a very harmful habit. Not because there is anything wrong with being unselfish; instead, I usually neglected to treat myself as well as I was trying to treat others.
3/ 🧵Shame promotes compulsive behavior. It does not appear like this while you are under its spell, yet this is reality. One such example is Pet Rescue folks. Over the years, I have crossed numerous. Some are likely suggesting those who donate their time and resources to put unwanted animals into natural sanctuaries. Others have convinced themselves that no one can look after abandoned pets as they can. This is the reason they are overflowing their houses with unwelcome creatures. Without the means or knowledge to care for these species, they end up causing much more damage after that great. Every year, people's houses or residential properties reveal neglected animals. Though many are deprived and many are already dead, the people in charge of these temporary shelters gladly appear in court and declare their "much better dead after that abused" point of view towards animals.
4/ 🧵You may enjoy both on your own and others typically as soon as you learn to ignore shame as a motivation for helping others. Genuine appreciation lies midway between what's best for you and what helps someone else. You have to learn not to go all the way to either side. Instead, respect those who routinely support you. When you can return and provide that assistance, do it with resolve. Those with a strong awareness of facts will successfully detect and handle that interaction.
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