I totally agree with the fact you said that's what you saw while growing up. At least as an adult now, you didn't need anyone to help you understand that such lifestyle isn't the best. Same goes to every other adults, there are some retraining we do to ourselves as adults to ensure our future isn't put at risk by our actions. About taking blame, c'mon you don't expect someone else to take the blame when as an adult you haven't figured out what's good for you. I think you need to use your story to convince more people who haven't realized this fact yet.
Is nice meeting you here.