Hello beautiful people. I hope your weekend has been great.
The highlight of my weekend was this wedding I attended. I couldn’t wait to return and come tell you guys all about it. Unfortunately I didn’t take any pictures so let’s make do with these screenshots I got from my videos.
Well, the wedding in itself was quite basic, nothing out of the ordinary. Just two hella stressed out people performing their marriage rites and wanting to just go home the whole time. I don’t think people actually ‘have fun’ on their wedding days. I mean, it’s a day they’ve probably been looking forward to and all but I can’t help but feel they’ll be too tired to actually enjoy it.
@wolfofnostreet, @joydukeson, @estherscott @reineesmay, you ladies are the only married women I know here so I’d like you beautiful ladies to tell me if you actually had fun on your wedding day.
In every wedding I’ve ever experienced, the couple are always stressed or getting stressed the entire time, from the entire preparation process to the whispers and written notes getting passed to them during the ceremony. I’ll keep thinking: ‘can they get a break?’
And then amidst everything they’re feeling and dealing with, they’d still be required to show up and follow every detail of the event. Sometimes I see a couple dancing at their wedding and it’s so obvious they don’t want to do that dance at the moment. In my head I’ll be like you know you can sit down right? I mean, it’s your wedding and nobody can beat you. 😂
I used to tell me myself that I would consider getting married if all I have to do is just show up. Send out so and so millions, get my outfit ready and just show up. I’d happily pay experts a whooping sum to set up a team and decide on everything, then I show up on that day glowing and full of energy to pepper my guests with an enormous amount of PDA and PSA. I don’t fare well with stress which is why I want to be wealthy enough to outsource everything I lack the energy for.
When people ask me if I want to get married, I say no if I don’t want to get into details with the person, but I actually do want to get married, it just has to be on my terms. I do fancy the idea of meeting someone or more and wanting to do life with them, I’d like to have a ceremony to mark our commitment but not in the regular fashion, especially not the Nigerian way. Left for me my partner and I will just move in and call it a day. Lol.
I had a good time at the wedding today, the guest who invited me was an absolute delight, we laughed, dissed people, danced and made a bunch of videos. The MC did his best at keeping the crowd engaged and even used me as a highlight, fine girl shenanigans you know. The food was okay and vibe check was great. The couple looked exhausted as usual and I felt for them. Am I the only one who wonders whether or not the couple are in love or they’re just doing wedding for marriage sake. I also try to imagine what their sex would look like. Sometimes I imagine if either of them just finished having one of those last cheating sex before marriage like in the movies.
Nevertheless, I wished them well and went back to minding my business. After they shared gifts, I called an Uber and we left. I was so happy to be going back home, my social battery was on an all time low and I knew if I stayed longer than that my anxiety would definitely creep in and ruin my whole day.
I’m glad I went to this wedding and fed my eyes and mind.
Thank you so much for reading. Take care.
This is me on a regular so imagine the anxiety before my own wedding. Lol.
I'm not comfortable in gatherings so I was aiming for an in-house ceremony. I didn't want the wedding I had at all but family insisted.
It didn't turn out bad at all. I outsourced everything so I wasn't tired before the wedding. The only thing I did was go pick up my dress the day before.
My husband and I specifically told the MC we don't want none of those games or forcing us to dance cos we won't do shit. So all the dancing was real and mostly alcohol fueled. Lol.
We had energy after the ceremony and hung out with friends later that evening. Even more energy to consumate the marriage at night...hehehe
I did have fun, most chilled wedding I've been to.
Coughs at consummate ..
Please maa don't spoil us o
We are babies here we don't adult thing o🤣🤣
All of us are babies 😆
😂 Lmao! Not consummate, slut!🤦🏾♀️😂
Wow. I would have loved to attend your wedding and probably go for the after party too. ☺️ Great move with the MC cause they be doing too much. I’m glad you had a chill wedding.
Thank you for sharing your story. You done give me hope.
No way we weren't going to do it 😆
And...you look like icecream 🥰🥰
😂...with vanilla toppings
@wolfofnostreet @estherscott you guysss!!! Stopeett 🙈🥰😻❤️
You actually tagged a wrong handle but still I stumbled on your topic and decided to read, then I discovered you actually did intend to tag me .
I sure had lots of fun on my wedikf day, you should see me dancing like I was high (exaggerating tho) and I don’t take alcohol at all.
I wasn’t stressed at all mostly because we had a wedding planner who took care of all the little and big details that would have stressed me and she is the best in the city I got married so she was over capable, that’s one
Two, I did my personal effects two months before, my wedding was November, by September I had already started distributing ASOebi, gathered my brides maid, their clothes were ready before oct ending, bought all I needed to buy and was catching cruise and having fun jsit waiting for the day
If you see me that period you would doubt I was actually planning a wedding, I have to be the most chilled and relaxed bride on the surface of the earth because one small stress I no stress
Thirdly, I married a capable man, he had every damn thing under control, my own was to just say what and what I wanted or what I did not want, he knew all the vendors on a personal level so, all negotiations and consultations were done by him and the wedding planner, while I was having fun, going on lunch dates and dinner outings with my friend,
Also I had a ton of energy and I was a super happy bride cox I wasn’t stressed at all and like @wolfofnostreet mentioned .. there was enough energy for night doings.
I think what stresses most brides is the fact that they try to plan and organize their weddings themselves, that’s the most stressful thing and disservice any bride can do to herself, because on that day you will just be looking tired and stressed out,
If you can’t afford an event planner, then delegate tasks to friends and family.
Btw you look amazing, such a beaut
I was going to say that... Lipstick 💄 on fleek
Thank you so much. I'm blushing different shades 😂🥰❤️❤️
Lol. I’m so sorry I spelt it wrong. I’m glad you found it it.
God when????? 📢😭
Wow. That’s so amazing. Yes to most chilled and relaxed bride ever! Omo! I like your own o, everything set ahead of time that’s great. I’m not even surprised cause you seem to me like a well put together person.
Night doings huh? Bad children. 😂 Not you dancing your ass off without being under the influence. Me I’m going drink just like @wolfofnostreet. I’ll even do other substances join, no time 😌
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate you so much. 😘❤️
Other substances ke?
It's not that serious naa shu
Lmao. Maybe a liru puff puff to keep body and mind together 😭😂
I remember you said earlier it was your boyfriend's mum who invited you for the wedding... It could be a sign she is telling you how much she can't wait for your big day with her son😏
Better don't break her heart and say No🥰 if she ask..
And as for me I had a blast at my wedding..ask @reineesmay... Planned my wedding months before the D day, thanks to the CORO for the change of dates. I even closed my reception at earlier as 4pm and went to sleep in my hotel room. Had enough energy to tour round the city later and enjoy our night then drove ourself back to lagos the next morning.
it was the shortest wedding I have attended myself...thanks to an amazing Mc too who knew how to read a room and make the best out of it.
I was there .. I had madt fun
Did you say mc?
Mehn I was tripping for your mc
E Dey enter my eye all through the wedding
🤣
😂😂I noticed
Esther o!!!! 😂 Don’t kill me please.
Wow! You guys really enjoyed your weddings and that’s so amazing. I guess the secret is all in planing. Oh, and I remember reading that your weekend post about your wedding day, it was really nice and cheesy.
Please be ready to be on my team when my own reach o. 😜
Thank you so much for sharing. 😘🤗❤️
Normally, if the groom is who I think it would be......😉
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I have only been to a few weddings in my life and in almost all of them the couple did actually seem to have a good time.
Can't say much else though, I'm only an outsider looking in.
You looked very pretty @atyourservice
Aww. Thank you so much @andrastia. 🤗 I hope you’ve been well.
Well it’s great the couples you’ve witnessed their weddings had a good time. Every couple deserves that, no showing up tired and worn out.
Thank you for engaging. I appreciate. ❤️
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Hmmmm It's been a while since I attended a wedding ceremony but I always love the atmosphere especially the foods lol.
My wedding wasn't something I was honestly happy about. My dad wasn't there So it really didn't make sense to me. Seeing my uncles eat everything that would have been for my father made me very emotional. I tried so hard to hold myself during that period. My mum and bro did the running around and then my friends were there too. hubby made all arrangements. Even though I did some too, I wasn't completely into it.
I have gotten over it now by the way. I want to have another wedding some kind of a renewal thing. This time, I will be fully involved
I am sorry about that. Another wedding sounds just right, one where you'll be involved and intentional about what you want and who you want there.
I'm sure it'll be beautiful when you decide to have it, and your dad will always be present in energy and in spirit.
Thank you for your kind words