Ha, ha, ha, ha. It is not often that I say my name thrown into an addendum. I have enjoyed my fair share of lights on. It is amazing. Expression, eye contact, looking at the reactions of the body. I don't have a favorite way. The experience is the thing that I love. And I believe there's different levels of intimacy on each way. As with many things in life, it is a matter of preference.
Yes, it's definitely not an activity you can say it SHOULD be done one way or the other, unless your partners not into it!
On that much we agree. That's why communication is key for everything.